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What Very Direct People Go Through

The Side effects of straightforwardness

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In my opinion, there is a lot of positive things that come from being the straightforward or blunt friend. However, as I started to grow up and mature, it didn't seem to be appreciated. Listed below are a few things I go through as being a blunt person, maybe some people can relate or know someone who is similar.

The Downside

1. Your friends have to literally stop you before you say something too "rude"

In my group of friends, I'm always the mean friend. I find it funny because It's not that I am trying to be mean it's just that sometimes, well A LOT of times, my brain is moving faster than my mouth and my mouth has a hard time catching up so whatever I am thinking just slips right on out. I try to control that as much as I can because it comes off as rude to others. My mother tells me that I get that from her and my grandfather. In college, the 3 main people I hung out with kept me from saying a lot of things that maybe I shouldn't have said or would've hurt some feelings. Guess we'll never know because they never let me talk. Joy killers.

2. Not having a lot of friends

There are not many people that can deal with straightforward people in this world apparently. See my friends already know how I am and ignore it. But I don't have many friends, which I am completely fine with. It is already hard enough to find the right kind of friends anyway and the last thing I need are friends that get butt hurt over every little thing. So find friends that are similar to you in that aspect if you have the same problem.


3. People ask for your opinion and then get mad when you give it to them....

BOYYYYYYYY this is a HUGE one here. If I had a dollar for every time this happened to me, I would be swimming in a pool full of Benjamins. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT ask me for my opinion if you really don't want it, seriously. For example, "Hey Tay what should I do about my boyfriend, he cheated but I really love him." Don't ever ask me questions like that because you'll be really disappointed. If something you're wearing doesn't suit you, I'll tell you, especially my friends. I wouldn't let you go out like that.

4. Being told that you're very intimidating

I have been told that I intimidate people, even by my mother. I intimidate guys too apparently, not all just some who don't have any kind of balls to talk to me about meaningful things or become my friend. I'm not sure why though. I feel like everyone deserves to hear the truth, even though it may hurt, trust me I know. It's just annoying to hear that your personality intimidates people. I won't change who I am to make others comfortable.

On The Bright Side

1. It weeds out a lot of fake people

Most people who can't handle you bluntness won't stick around for long and that is a great thing. Who needs fake friends right? Right. Now your REAL friends think it is funny and also refreshing. They don't try to change you or try to persuade you to be something else your not. They accept you for who you are. I have really good friends. They consist of 2 guys and 6 girls. Do we all hang out together all at once? No. But can I call them and tell them everything? Yes. Do they think my bluntness is a problem? Not for them, they just roll with it.


2. Your friends know that you wouldn't lie to them

It is really really hard to lie. I mean I could but what good would that do you or me? Drake (the rapper) said it best, "Keep it 8 more than 92 with me, 100". Good lyric, good motto and a very catchy phrase to keep in mind. I do my best to keep things real with my friends because that is what friendship is. Not just going along with what your friends do or say because they're your friends. No, call them out on it and debate about it be direct ad upfront with them. That is how friendships last. My best friends are always real with me and so are my other friends. They know I wouldn't lie especially if it affects them in a major way.


So with that being said, the next time someone is overly blunt with you, ask yourself, "Do they really mean any harm? or are they just looking out for me?"






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