ENFJs are 1 out of the 16 Myers Briggs personality types. The collaboration of four letters- extraversion, intuitive, feeling, judging - make up the foundation of who we are. As 3% of the general population, ENFJs are naturally a unique group of people that are energetic, affectionate and empowering. If you have an ENFJ in your life, or are looking to spot one, here are some traits of ours that are telling signs and can be used to get a better understanding of who we are.

1. We are cheerleaders.

We will constantly be building you up, motivating you, and cheering you on. We genuinely want to see you succeed and reach your full potential; Even if you can’t see it, trust me, we sure can! We probably have more faith in you than you do, and we want to change that.

2. We want to be known back.

We spend so much of our time and energy trying to know and understand people to the best of our abilities, that we often feel like we aren't getting that back in return. Although we are naturally a pretty selfless type, we desire authentic relationships that require a deep understanding from both sides.

3. We want to know the depths of your mind, heart and soul.

We don’t do superficial relationships of any sort. ENFJs want to have a full understanding of who you are, why you are who you are, why you think how you think, etc. We want to go to the deepest level you’ve got!

4. We’re your personal therapists.

If you ever need anyone to rant to or are seeking advice, ENFJs would be more than happy to help. Not only do we actually like to counsel you through things, but we’re great at reading people so we can offer a new perspective and get to the root of your problems.

5. We see the good in everything and are overly optimistic.

I’ve always thought about this as a gift and a curse. We have a very positive outlook on life and have a lot of hope in humanity. Although, we often find ourselves disappointed because our (extremely) high expectations and ideals are not met like we thought they would be.

6. We’re easily manipulated by guilt.

This is more true for ENFJs that aren’t fully matured, but sometimes we are easily manipulated if you play the “guilt” card. Since we are highly empathetic people by nature, if we begin to feel guilty about something or for someone we will quickly forget about our own needs to help you out.

7. We worry too much about other people.

Similar to my last point, we value others far more than ourselves. Often times we worry about others too much that we forget to take care of our own needs.

8. We’re good at picking up vibes.

When we walk into a room, we immediately can sense what’s going on. No matter how hard you may be trying to hide it, we’ll be able to tell that something’s wrong while others may be oblivious to it.

9. We’re super hard on ourselves.

With almost everything that goes wrong in our lives, we take the blame for it. Even when it's completely not our fault, we still rarely place it on others. Although after a while, with a lot of self reflection, we’ll come to terms with what happened and lift that heavy weight off of our shoulders.

10. We’re extreme planners.

Go ahead and ask us about our 2, 5, 10 year life plans because I assure you we have it all thought out. We spend a lot of our time dreaming about our futures and what life will look like for us that sometimes we get so caught up in what’s to come that we forget to live in the present. This is why it’s so important for ENFJs to surround themselves with some types that will bring them back to reality.

11. We love like crazy.

Whether a friend, significant others, family member or simply a human being on this planet: we will love you like crazy. We are warmly affectionate, affirming and supportive and will put every ounce of effort and energy we have into something or someone we care about.