If you’re anything like me, you missed the stage of growing up when you were supposed to develop a so-called “filter,” something that prevents you from saying those random, somewhat offensive, incredibly stupid comments that race across your mind. Over the years not having a filter has gotten me into countless amounts of trouble. So for all of you out there who have someone in your life that is incredibly blunt and impulsive, here are some tips for understanding them:
First off, your relationship will most likely be based upon insults, sarcastic remarks, and offensive comments. Don’t take them personally; they're our way of showing affection. If I tell you your new haircut makes you look like a 12-year-old skater boy (shoutout to my best friend for being a trooper with that one), it’s mainly because I love you … but also because you should probably fix your hair. So, word to the wise: we have your best interests at heart, but we are utterly incapable of putting our better judgement over impulse. As a result of this, we will forever be apologizing. Making less than flattering comments to everyone, even complete strangers, is what we do best. Blunt people might as well have “I’m sorry” tattooed across their foreheads because rarely does a conversation go by without offending someone. This is partly due to the fact that we value honesty above anything. If my outfit is hideous, by all means, say so, because you know I'd do the same for you. It’s the golden rule, kinda...
Dealing with blunt people when we’re sober is a handful, but just wait until you add alcohol to the equation. You best believe that there will be a waterfall of snarky remarks gushing out of our mouths. Take a person with no filter and multiply that by 100: RUN FOR THE HILLS! This can be comical and often times detrimental for that poor, blunt soul. Tip: do not tell us what we said to our ex-boyfriend or the new girl he is dating the morning after.
As a result for our brutally honest humor, we appreciate a good, inappropriate joke. The best way to get along with us is to reply to us with an obscene comment in any situation. For example, instead of saying something like “no thank you,” respond with something such as, “I would rather be punched in the face every day for the rest of my life than do that.” We can appreciate an outrageous response, so don’t hold back.
When it comes to the romance department, well, lets just say we don’t do so well. The very thought of a person with no filter attempting to flirt is cringe worthy and almost always ineffective. Our version of flirting is probably something along the lines of us dropping an incredibly sarcastic, rude comment about what you're wearing, what you look like, or what you just said. When your friends try to set you up with someone they usually justify it by saying something along the lines of “you’ll love them, they’re mean too!”
Being the blunt friend is rough because when you’re introduced to new people, you often hear "Oh, I’ve heard about you." If you have to explain or give a disclaimer about your friend to someone new, they’re probably your blunt friend. However, it is incredibly vital that you give warning before you introduce them to new people in order to salvage relationships and prevent many, many tears.
So, no matter how much trouble your filter-less blunt friend has gotten you into, cherish them because their sincerity is a rare find. They are the reason for your amazing fashion sense and probably one of your realest relationships. So next time you see your blunt friend, show them a little love with a snarky, semi-insulting remark (but do not give them a hug because they will most likely reject your public display of affection).
