No couple plans on hitting “ the wall” in a relationship, yet we can only prepare and know how to handle it when the time comes. It happens in almost every relationship, especially when we've met “the one”. The wall usually happens when we’re older and no longer searching for just a relationship but a lifetime partner. It is by understanding what it is that we can overcome the wall when the time comes that we've hit it.

Understanding “The wall”

“The wall” is what we use as a metaphor to describe a plateau in our relationship. It’s the time where we start to question our compatibility with our partner and if they are really the person we want to spend our lives with. We may start to realize our inability to get along with our partner and find ourselves constantly fighting and arguing when we are with them. The wall is an experience that shakes us to the core of what we thought to believe and allows doubt to settle in where security once was. At this point, the logical side of us begins to recognize the possibility of breaking up. For those of us who listen to that logical side, this is where we decide to move on in our lives and begin seeking a new partner we are more compatible with. However, for those who listen beyond the logical side, everything is suddenly put in perspective and we begin to realize what has to be done to preserve our relationship.

Overcoming “the wall”

Recognizing the difference between an expired relationship and “the wall” is a crucial step in overcoming the wall itself. By doing so, we are able to then establish ways to rekindle our relationship that we once believed was lost. During this time we may think “taking a break” is a good idea, however, this is not the case. When challenged with the wall, we should not take time apart but rather spend more time with our partner to better understand the source of the problem. It is during this time we must put in 110% in the relationship to ensure that we overcome the plateau that we’re experiencing. It is not what we do that matters, but how we go about doing such things and that it always has a positive impact on our partner and relationship during this time. Whether it’s going out to dinner, seeing a movie, or spending the night at home as long as we’re with our partner and spending quality time with them. Above everything, we must never stop telling our partner that we love them. Just three words have such an impact on a relationship and truly show our partner how much they mean to us.

“The wall” won’t happen in every relationship, just the right one. It is important that when the time comes we know how to handle it so we are able to continue to reciprocate the love of our partner. We’ll know when it happens and when it does, don’t give up. Keep fighting for the love that gives you purpose because that kind of love and affection only comes once a lifetime.