So you have been talking to this guy for awhile and you think everything is going great. Maybe you too even dated.

Now I'm not talking about any guy, that's easy to get over. I'm talking about someone you have dated awhile or were getting to know. Someone that you love and possibly saw yourself with for the rest of your life. You made special memories with this person, shared dreams and discussed your innermost feelings and insecurities. Then all of a sudden you get hit with "let's just be friends." It hurts so bad and the memories you two had to keep running through your head. Everything seemed to be going so well. What happened? You can't keep asking yourself that question. It is not the end of the world and there is a lot you can do to mend your broken heart and feel better.

Being just friends doesnt have to be a bad thing. It can be hard especially when there are feelings involved but at least he was honest with you. It is better when a guy is honest instead of wasting your time. If he really cares like he says he does then the bond between you two wont be any diferent. In fact, the relationship could improve. You two will be able to focus on bulding a great friendship which will mean so much and you will get to focus on yourself. It doesnt have to be akward if you dont want it to be.

So you may be asking, what do I do now that we are just friends? The answer is you need to focus on yourself. Take this time to do things that you really enjoy such as going on trips or hanging with your girlfriends. Many people will say "once he sees how much fun you are having without him he will want you back." that may be true but it is not a good reason to do things for yourslef.

The truth is you will have to do things for yourself. What good would it be to have fun for a man to notice. This will not set you free from your heartbreak but will only make you miserable. After a break up you will have to learn to be independent and not rely on if the guy will come back or not. If he really loves you then nothing can seperate him from you. Instead of focusing your energy on thinking about what went wrong and how, focus it on bettering yourself. It will be an investment you will not regret.