Being a college student means figuring your life out. It is about learning who you are and what you want to become. I am a sophomore, so I have some time before I need to have it all figured out. But, deciding what to do with your life is hard, especially when you are in a major that has a lot of pathways and options.
So since the holiday season is approaching, here are a few questions that college students do not want to be asked.
1. What are you going to do with your major?
Honestly, I do not know. My mind changes every day about what I am going to do with my life. There are too many options and I am interested in too many fields to pick one. I am constantly thinking about the future, and it panics me a little when I am asked about my future endeavors. When I figure it out, I will make sure you are the first person to tell.
2. Where are you going to go for graduate school?
This is a more acceptable question for juniors and seniors in college because they are starting to seriously think about their future. Do not ask me this in my freshman or sophomore year of college because I have no even decided what classes I'm taking for next year, nonetheless what graduate school I'm going to be attending in three years.
3. Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?
If the answer is yes, prepare to be bombarded with follow-up questions like, are they cute, what's their major, how did you meet, what is their family like, where are they from, and the list goes on and on. Now, if the answer is no then you get comments like, "why not, you're so pretty/handsome?", "don't worry, you'll find someone", and "you're too good for everyone anyway".
4. When are you going to get married?
If the answer was yes for the above question, then this question will be about your current significant other. If the answer was no, then you will get the sympathetic comments above. Either way, the answer is probably going to be "I do not know". Because honestly, who knows?
5. Do you remember (fill in the blank)?
I hate these kinds of questions because usually I met the person when I was too young to form memories, or it happened years ago and I met them once for a few minutes and never saw them again. Either way, odds are that I do not remember said person.
6. Have you gained/lost weight?
Unless I post that I am trying a new weight loss program, or have been bulking up at the gym, asking about my weight is not okay. My guess is that the person asking me this question would not like it if I asked them this exact question.
I will gladly answer any questions that people have that do not involve these six questions. I do not know anything about my future or what it entails. Of course, I will answer these questions when I know what my plans are, but for now nothing is certain. It is okay not to have my entire life planned out. When the time comes, I will have concrete plans. But for now, just stick to asking me about the food.