A letter from my sister…

I was having a really hard time trying to figure out what to write for this week’s article. I kept going over and over past articles and random inspirations that get me thinking but I just could not do it until I was on my old Tumblr just looking through it. I immediately remember a letter my sister wrote me when she was at school and she knew about how I was getting sick and did not know what to do. Even from miles and miles away she still took me into consideration and this letter helped me a lot. I think it can help other people, too.

Below is the letter that she wrote me:

“JOHN 13:7

Jesus replied, “You do not realize what I am doing now, but later you will understand.” Avery, right now is rough but I know that you will find the strength to move past it. It sucks when you know that you need to let go but you can’t because you are still waiting for the impossible to happen. Time will heal everything you are feeling at this very moment. There are so many more important things to worry about that are going on in your life than someone who can’t look past his own immaturity level. Think to yourself… what is better?

1. Worrying about someone who lies to you, who doesn’t treat you the way you should be treated, someone who has placed you as his second choice, carries you around as a puppet. He makes you feel completely horrible about your whole self. You can’t even trust him. You have let him take complete control of your heart but it’s time to cut those strings. OR
2. Enjoying the exciting journey you’re on and enjoying your time as a Nittany Lion. Focusing on your future that will affect the rest of your life.You are on a great path considering you’re planning on going to school to be a doctor. You want to take in every chance you have. Making friendships you never thought would last, fully enjoying all the experiences up there without something disturbing your tracks. Having family and friends that care about you more than anything who are here no matter what and will always be here no matter what. We are not just going to run away.

It’s clear that #2 is the one you should have picked because it is all you, I or anyone deserves. It’s four of the best years of your life and you want to make the best of it. You don’t want to look back and think how miserable you were trying to make something impossible “work” because it’s not even worth it to try anymore. I can’t tell you how long healing is going to take but I can tell you this: One day, whether you are 18, 25, or 76 you will stumble upon someone who will start a fire in you that cannot die. However, the saddest most awful truth(at the moment) is you will come to find they are not always whom we spent our lives with. Meaning just because you have invested so much time in him and it seems right, you will find that he is not necessarily the one. For if he was the one he would be constituted as Mr. Right and when you meet Mr. Right, you will know. Because he will do everything in his power to keep that fire ablaze in you. He will do things that will annoy you, make you upset, maybe even hurt you but he will realize what he has done and change the way he approached everything and fix it himself because he is a man and not a little boy. That is what fighting for someone really is. You deserve someone that actually puts in effort. So, I’m telling you one day when you least expect it someone will walk into your life that will change every view you have on boys. You will be a first choice to someone but don’t run away from it because then you will be the idiot. Maybe not now or in a year, but one day I hope you find the courage to open your heart to someone who deserves to be loved by someone like you. You’re an extraordinary person and deserve everything especially someone who will give you everything."

End.

Two years ago, I found this advice very helpful and it changed my perspective on a lot. The only reason I dug this up was so others can read it and maybe help others change their perspective and maybe even help them to stop hurting for a little bit. There is nothing better than having people there for you through some of the roughest times of your life. So, I want to be there for others' roughest times of their lives.