The sorority life can either go good or bad for most girls regarding the “type” of family they get. Thankfully, mine has been nothing but full of support and happiness. When I got my Big it was the best day ever. My Big and I literally clicked the first time we even met and from then on out, I knew she would become an actual older sister for me and someone who would hold my hand through all my hardships as a young adult.
My Big and I have been each other's crying shoulders, travel buddies, food junkies, boy trash-talkers, and much more in the less than the year we have known each other. I mean, I’m not kidding, she is literally my other half. I could not have found the most perfect sister in the most difficult time in my life. With my Big obviously came my “Grand Big,” another perfect best friend I have, who has a lot more knowledge than my Big and I since we're basically nut cases together.
My Grand Big is literally that older sister you have that is so fun to be around but will tell you straight up if you’re doing something wrong yet will also stand up for you and be a mother figure for you when something goes awry. Together, the three of us have become a triplet team that have each others backs for anything but they have both taught me a few things that I will forever be grateful for.
1. Be happy no matter how bad the situation…
One thing that has stood out to me is how my Big and Grand Big both have the world’s best smiles through any hardships they go through. No matter what goes on in their lives, they find a way to bring out the best in the situation and always find a positive outcome. Whenever I have an issue going on, I immediately take it to our group chat or call one of them. They are the ones who ignore the negative in the situation and tell me how to turn any situation into a happy one and make me feel good about myself even if I was in the wrong. That’s something that more people should have in life, a positive outlook.
2. How to be loving and compassionate…
Both my Big and Grand Big have been blessed with some pretty great boys in their life that they’re lucky enough to call their boyfriends, which has helped them to be super loving people. That has rubbed off on me and I cant help but smile at how happy they are with their men. One day, I hope to do the same cheesy cute stuff they do for their men and love as hard as they do. Every time they tell me about the cute ideas they have planned for their boyfriends, I cant help but get super happy for them because they are such loving and compassionate people.
3. How to be a leader...
My Grand Big is one of the hardest workers I know. She is constantly on the move, she lives breaths and sleeps work and school and the extra curricular activities that comes with that. She’s a true leader and knows how to make time for all of us in her life. At times, she might want to give up but she keeps going and strives for her goals and dreams. She is such a dedicated person, I’m so proud to have someone to look up to like that. My Big, she is the same. She always wants to be involved and sometimes takes to much on her plate for her to handle, but she always makes it work its impressive. I know one day I will see them do bigger and better things in life than they already do now. I'M SO PROUD!
4. ALWAYS give and never expect anything in return…
The most down to earth people you will ever meet is my Big and Grand Big. They are constantly giving to people and never expect anything in return. Whether its helping someone out with an issue, staying up until 3 am helping someone with homework, or holding a girls hair as she pukes because of a “fun night,” they do things to make others happy and that’s so important in my life. I used to be so selfish and always want things done for me, but it wasn’t until I had their example to always be the go-to-girl and never expect anything back was when I really started being humble. Sometimes you always think since you do something for someone, you will get something back, but sometimes people just don’t work that way yet somewhere down the road they will be thankful for you, and you should always think that way. I have never heard either of them say “I wish my friends did that for me” because they are always the ones doing things for others.
I am so blessed to have them in my life and I’m so thankful with how close we are. Yeah, we have more people in our “family” but us three just happen to be the closest in age and clicked a lot faster. I love everyone in my family and I’m so happy to be a part of something so great.
