Some, if not all girls, have heard this term before. “Wife material" is normally what guys say when they are talking about who is and is not date worthy. I have asked guys before, what is their definition of a girl who is “wife” material? If their body count is high, if they get a lot of likes on Instagram or social media, if they show too much skin, if she gives all of herself to you on the first date, she is not wife material. She has to be a good girl, can't have a flat butt or annoying voice, has to be fit, be really nice, conservative, laid back, not psycho, etc. and she will be "wife" material. She has to be able to cook and clean and can't smoke cigarettes. She can't be a girl who drinks every night and smokes weed. She can't be easy, or a bitch. They can't be taller than the guy and has to have gorgeous eyes. *Bish gonna smoke weed but no cigs*. Doesn't wear a lot of makeup but has to look good without makeup. Smile has to be on fleek and can't have weird hands or feet.

“How u gon wife her when everybody had her?? So sad.”

“Should be a written law you can’t wife after a certain amount of bodies.”

These are all real answers from guys I have asked what it is to be “wife” material.

You are not going to tell me who I am or who I have to be for you, I am going to tell you who I am. I am "wife" material. Every girl is "wife" material to some guy. Guys can like girls who are all about themselves or all about the guy, and can be over protective at times. Girls who smoke and drink can pair with a guy who does the same. Body count too high? Guys like experienced girls, or maybe not. Men, sorry to break it to you, but if we are talking about “wife” material and “husband” material (who is date worthy) I can say half of you are not "husband" material either.

First, if you have to even go around talking about “wife material" you are not my type of material. Second, we are not material, we are all humans, both men and women. If she was born with a flat ass, but has a big heart and great qualities is she still "wife" worthy? In college that is all you hear is "She isn't wife material". To the men who relate to this article, I think you should sit down and take a step back. Why are you even looking for a “wife” material girl? Why are you searching for a future girl? Out of the thousands of girls that go to your college, I am telling you there are those who are worth it. Not all girls want to be “wifed” up. Everyone has different preferences on who they want and what they want from it. "I am not finding my future girlfriend at the bar in a college town". Guys go out on weekends looking for someone to bring home, but guys also go out to have fun and be mellow. Not all girls go home with guys and wake up expecting a relationship and some gourmet Dunkin Donuts paid breakfast in their "walk of shame" clothes. We have respect for ourselves too. Girls aren't “wife” material if they have high body counts? Guys, stop being hypocrites.

There should not be a thing considering who is and isn't "wife" material or "husband material". We all have qualities and prefer a certain guy, but you will never find that girl who is exactly what you are looking for. We all have pasts, we all make mistakes, we all have messed up before. Don't judge a girl for getting too drunk one night when guys come home and smash lamps in dorms and put holes in walls after the bars. If she is in greek life that does not make her a girly girl who just wants to get into your pants. If she does her own thing it does not mean she doesn't know how to interact. Everyone deals with atmospheres and situations differently. Everyone's respect levels vary and how you choose to present yourself or show yourself off is your own business. If we are going to talk "wife" material, I am "wife" material. Maybe not for you, but for someone. Except flaws, don't change them.