To the person dating someone with trust issues....

As many people who have been cheated on or lied to know, trusting is not something that comes easily. It can be extremely hard especially in new relationships to truly open up and be vulnerable again. Once we are heartbroken and our trust was betrayed it is extremely hard to allow ourselves to give that to anyone else again. Words suddenly mean nothing because we are so used to hearing them in the form of a lie. It is hard to believe anything anyone tells us.

We feel like because we have been lied to that everyone will lie and it is really hard to separate the past from the present. Similar situations can often bring back memories that are so painful and create situations we really can't cope with. It can be almost impossible to forgive because we are so used to wishing we didn't. All of the hurt that came from the past relationship never truly heals but we have to learn to let it go and open our hearts up again.

It can be especially hard because we don't want to relate new things to bad experiences in the past but there are times when anxiety and fear of being hurt just completely clouds our judgment and makes us a completely different person. The girl who is normally the happy, outgoing one in the crowd is now the depressed and isolated girl who doesn't want to have feelings for anyone.

We find it easier to be heartless than to allow ourselves to be hurt again. We know that new people and new relationships don't deserve this burden but it's almost impossible to completely put trust in someone again.

Even little things can make us overthink to the point of completely shutting down and wanting to give up. So to anyone who is close to someone who has trust issues please be patient and mindful that we don't want to feel this way and we wish that someone from the past didn't destroy us to the point of seeing the worst in everyone we meet but they did.

We know you don't deserve this and we really are trying not to carry around this fear anymore but it's hard. Hearts, unlike broken bones, can take years to heal so please just be patient and conscious of that. We will get there again but it takes time.

Thank you for being there