I have spoken to many different types of men in my life. I have spoken to married men, single men, mature men, immature men, Men of God, atheist, Muslim, etc. The list is endless. Everyone knows everyone is different. What remains the same is the nature of who a man is. Every man grows up with dreams about becoming a doctor, playing professional sports, being a musician, whatever it may be, they have dreams. Why am I saying all of this? Because every man who finds a girl always goes through the same process of trying to be a good husband, a provider, a boyfriend, fiance. So the question is, "What is the best way to love my woman?" One simple answer, with God's love.

Every woman is like a puzzle who's pieces and patterns change constantly. It's a never ending up-hill climb to figure out how to love her, but also to feel respected and feel like a man. One of the biggest issues I have seen when talking to most men is that they don't want to appear weak in the world's eyes. They don't want to be taunted by friends, coworkers, and family. Let me tell you something, There's definitely a balance that should be in order, but loving your wife with everything you got isn't wrong of you, doesn't make you weak, it makes you a good man. Its what only makes sense to do if you're going to spend time or your life with them. Going to work day after day paying the bills doesn't make you deserve special treatment. The woman is the weaker vessel bottom line. You have to understand that to give her the proper love. She is always going to need love, not the love your friends say you need to give, but the love that trumps them all. God's love.

I have given advice to many men about relationships, and you know what, I still have my own problems that arise. That only means that it's normal to have conflict in marriage. If you never have conflict , it's because you don't try. It means you coexist. Don't just be married and coexist. I challenge you find a new love for your spouse, girlfriend, fiancee. Let me paint a mental picture for you. Imagine your relationship like your job. The first thing you do is go into training to learn the new skill or trade. You learn everything about who you just met. You then start to show up day after day, you start to get good at your job, you put the effort into being amazing. Why do men do this? We want to be told were great. We have egos, we want the employee of the month award, we want that huge paycheck, the big raises. Why am I saying this? You go to work, to always be better, to progress your career to better yourself , your finances. Because that makes us feel like a man right? Are you doing the same thing in your relationship or your marriage? Ask yourself seriously. Most of us give every bit of energy we have at work, show up at home, then were suddenly out of energy. God showed me an example of how marriage should be. I pictured myself going to the front door after work about to rest because I was tired, completely ready to just do nothing else but rest. Well God showed me a time clock next to the lock. Why would that be there? God says when you get home , your shift just got started of being a husband, provider, leader, etc. Don't look at marriage as this terrible job that ask so much of you. When you love someone as Christ loves then you automatically do those things without questions asked. Be a gentle at all times, give your wife all of the love she deserve and I promise things will be much smoother and you'll truly enjoy the marriage God has given you.