1. Emma, 20, Pronouns: They/Them

Emma continued to use their birth name after realizing they were nonbinary, but their dead pronouns are she/her.

"The way I explain it is that I'm not a girl, I'm not a boy, I'm just Emma. Some days I may feel more feminine, some days I may feel more masculine, but overall I don't necessarily associate with a specific gender, I'm just somewhere in the middle I guess. I always felt like I didn't belong with how everyone saw girls, and I was always super in touch with my masculine side, especially as a kid. It wasn't until my sophomore year of college when I met someone who was nonbinary that I realized I felt the same way."

Emma also told me that their friends were super supportive, even if they did not understand what being nonbinary was.

3. Sam*, 19 (two weeks away from being 20!), Pronouns: They/Them

Even though Sam is not out as nonbinary to their family, they detailed that their friends are so amazing and supportive. They did say that "although, when I started questioning my gender, my girlfriend at the time told me I probably was just super gay and wasn't actually anything other than female. Other than that, though, everyone I care about has been the best".

Being nonbinary to Sam "just means being me. Gender has always felt so constricting to me like I was in a tiny box and I was suffocating. Finding out that I could be something ELSE, something outside of a girl or boy was so freeing for me. It made so much more sense in my head. I feel so much more like myself now, identifying as nonbinary, than I did before. I've never been so in tune and true to who I am. I love it.

Being nonbinary doesn't always mean being androgynous! It isn't always that person with short hair, flat chest, and a flannel who you can't quite put a gender label on. Sometimes a nonbinary person is hyper-feminine and wears dresses and makeup all the time. Sometimes they're hyper-masculine and love to lift weights and punt footballs. Just because someone enjoys something that is typically binary doesn't mean they aren't nonbinary."

4. Kas, 18, Pronouns: They/Them

Kas noted about their dead name and pronouns that, "They aren't as dead as I'd like them to be." Unfortunately, people still use that name and the wrong pronouns to refer to Kas. Not using someone's preferred name or pronouns may not seem like a big deal, but it can actually be extremely hurtful and triggering.

To Kas, identifying as non-binary means that, "I'm not a boy or a girl, and neither of those labels or their accompanying pronouns feel right for me. They actually make me feel super bad. Pretending I'm a girl makes me feel like I'm wearing an itchy, ill-fitting costume.

Being nonbinary feels freeing, I don't have to pretend anymore when I'm with friends or at home with my significant other. Being nonbinary means being true to myself and being honest with the world."

As honest as Kas wants to be with the world, they explained that the backlash they have received in the past has made them more cautious about who they tell about their identity.

"I wish people would be kinder and more willing to try and understand me before deciding I'm weird, trying too hard to be special, or going off and *explaining* to me that there are only two genders."

5. Alex*, 20, Pronouns: They/Them

Alex explains nonbinary as "some days that I feel like a 'boy', some days I feel like a 'girl' and then there are some days I feel like a mixture of the two. I dress according to these moods and feelings. Because I feel a mixture of the two main genders, I, therefore, do not fit into the category of either male or female."

Growing up, Alex always had been a tomboy but was often called a "lesbian" by their peers and family because of the way they dressed and acted. Freshman year of college, they finally had a close friend who was nonbinary, and this prompted them to question their identity.

"I always just felt like an outcast. My NB (nonbinary) friend opened my eyes to this hidden gender and ever since I met them it made sense. We had so much in common. I didn't tell anyone because I was scared, but it made total sense for once in my life. I didn't officially come out until less than a year ago."

Even though their friends are 100% supportive, their family is another story. Alex said their family completely rejected them as nonbinary. "My family still refers to me as my dead name. They think it's a phase. They also attempted to cut off my college tuition because of it."

Even though they keep this part of their life hidden to their family, they still are optimistic and feel proud and free to finally be who they want to be.