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What Is "Girlfriend Material" And Why Do I Have To Be It?

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Rachel Lowry

May 22, 2017

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What exactly is "girlfriend material" and exactly why do I need to be it? What is "boyfriend material" for that matter?

I hear it all the time about girls claiming they are this elusive "girlfriend material" as if it in anyway makes them a better partner. I also hear girls who claim that they are not yet "girlfriend material" as if that is a sign that anyone wanting relations should stay away or as if they need to change to become a better future girlfriend.

What exactly is this "girlfriend material"?

Why are we forced into these strange standards for being the perfect partner? We are dating human beings, not computers. We should not expect the Girlfriend Material 3000. we should expect normal people who we are compatible with. If we expect our partner to be perfect, we are setting our relationship up to crash. Human beings are not perfect. Why do we expect ourselves to be perfect in a relationship?

Why do we have to conform to this fantasy image of the perfect girlfriend, or the perfect boyfriend, or the perfect partner? I firmly believe that having the perfect partner would get old very quickly. The standard perfect girlfriend is different for everyone and it is impossible to be "girlfriend material" for every single person.

The truth is, "girlfriend material"is just what one specific person wants in a girlfriend. There is no code of conduct to behaving like a proper girlfriend and there should never be. I am not "girlfriend material" to the majority of the world and I am very proud of that fact. I don't need to be 'girlfriend material" to everyone. The one who loves me, loves me because I am me. I don't fit the normal standard of "girlfriend material" but I fit their opinion of "girlfriend material". They love me for all my flaws and all my faults.

To them, I am "girlfriend material" because I am me. I don't have to fit other people's opinions on what is or is not girlfriend material because I already fit theirs. Isn't that what we all should want in a relationship? Not to be the perfect partner but for our significant other to love us regardless of the fact that we are not perfect?

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Do you have a small get-together or throw a big bash?

1. Your family and friends ask what you want for your birthday, so you give them a list of options.

2. You're super excited about your birthday the week before.

3. Your family flies in town to celebrate with you.

4. Your siblings wake you up.

5. Your friends are so excited to be with you on your big day.

6. If you work, your office might throw a party for you.

7. For your actual party, you plan a small get-together with close family and friends ...

8. ... or large celebration with everyone you know.

9. You eat the best meal you've had in weeks.

10. You devour the first piece of cake proudly.

11. You embarrass yourself somehow.

12. You get the present you really wanted but thought no one would get you.

13. You are a little sad about getting older.

14. That feeling wears off and you realize how happy you are to have family and friends to celebrate this day with you.

15. The morning after your birthday looks something like this.

Syllabus week doesn't exist.

All names should be "unisex names."

1. Communicating via email can be awkward.

2. Appointments usually accompany weird looks.

3. Introducing yourself to someone is never without a hitch.

4. You’ve probably thought about changing your name.

5. You’re often asked why you have the name you do.

6. You get excited when you meet someone of your gender with your name.

7. You feel awkward when you meet someone of the opposite gender with your name.

8. You’ve had someone say to you, “I knew a [your name], but they were [your opposite gender].”

9. You’ve heard a bad joke/pick-up line or two about your name before.

10. People are surprised when they see you.

11. You’re extra sensitive to other unique or unisex names.

12. You’ve fought with your parents about it.

13. All things considered, you’re happy your name makes you unique.

You know that all of these things apply to you. You'll just never tell.

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5. Your kids are going to look like Casper the Friendly Ghost!

6. *holds arm against your arm* Look how much darker I am compared to you!

7. *holds pale arm against another pale arm* Aw, at least you're darker than her!

8. I laid out by the pool almost every day over break!

9. I haven't used sunscreen since I was, like, five.

10. *adjusts selfie lighting to their face* Oops, where'd you go??

11. *after working out* Your face is SO red!

12. *wears white* Look! You're all one color!

13. You need to get some sun.

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6. holds arm against your arm Look how much darker I am compared to you!

7. holds pale arm against another pale arm Aw, at least you're darker than her!

10. adjusts selfie lighting to their face Oops, where'd you go??

11. after working out Your face is SO red!

12. wears white Look! You're all one color!