"You shouldn't have done that. It's just Girl Code,"
Let's be honest, we hear it all the time. One girl does something to another, and the "Girl Code" card is pulled. Friendships are lost because girls are snotty and hurt each other. And lets be real, most of us don't trust each other because girls are just SO ruthless. But I think it's time to end this trend, and start helping each other out, rather than making our lives harder than they already are. The answer to that lies within the problem: Follow the Girl Code.
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The problem is, most of us don't even know what the Girl Code consists of! One persons Girl Code is probably different than another, and who know's when you're breaking it and when you're not? Where is this code that we can refer to? How do I tell a stranger that she just broke the Girl Code, when there isn't a Girl Code to refer back to? Why is being a girl this hard!
It's okay. I know. I got you. So, I came up with a solution. I reached out to girls on social media and asked for their input and then, using this information I collected, I created the first 10 rules of the Girl Code.
1. If he is her boyfriend, he's off limits. Period.
None of this "Just because there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score" crap. This isn't soccer, it's a relationship. That boy is another girl's world. She pours her heart and soul into him, and is committed to him. So, Don't hit on him. Don't flirt with him. Don't talk to him. Don't text him. Don't go to lunch with him. Don't snapchat him. Don't tag him in articles. Don't ask him inappropriate questions. Don't kiss him. And, don't sleep with him. If you would honestly NOT be okay with somebody doing that to YOUR boyfriend, then don't do it to hers. Girl Code.
2. Never leave your drunk friend alone.
I don't care if you're at a raging house party, a bar, a concert or a small get together, do not EVER leave your drunk girlfriends side. Once she is drunk, it isn't "every girl for herself." You would be heartbroken if something happened to her. So, don't leave her. She want's to go get some food? Go with her. She needs to go to the bathroom? Go with her. She's headed home? Make sure her ride is somebody safe, or walk with her back to her place. Don't trust some guy she says she knows. "It's fine, I'm going with him." No. She isn't. Don't let her. See her texting her ex? Delete that message for her, she will regret it in the morning. Does she have her key's in her hand walking out the door? Because she isn't driving. Your duty is to keep your drunk friend safe, she'd do the same for you. Girl Code.
**Authors Note: I can't tell you how many times I see #2 not happening. I walked into the bathroom at a club once, and found a girl passed out next to the toilet of an open stall. When I turned around to the girls sitting at the sink to say something they were like "Oh there she is!" and picked her up like it was no big deal. THIS. IS. NOT. OKAY.
My best friend and I tag team who is DD and who gets to drink. One night, I'll stay sober and still have fun, but take care of her when she can't handle it anymore. The next night, she stay's sober and takes me for 2 am pancakes. This works PERFECT and we both know we're always safe. Try it. Girl Code.
3. A friend's ex is off limits. Always.
I don't care if she said it's okay. Would YOU be okay if she talked to your ex? No. It's not okay. So do not talk to her ex, text her ex, snapchat her ex, flirt with her ex, hook up with her ex, go out with her ex, or even say hi to her ex. How can you forget how hard she cried when they broke up?! He's off limits. Girl Code.
4. If her make up is on point, tell her.
We all know how long it takes to get those damn wings to be even. And we are all aware of how much make up really costs. If another girl's eye make up is killing it today, or her lip is absolutely perfect, or her brows couldn't be more on fleek, or that contour is flawless. TELL HER. We know she spent an hour in front of the mirror this morning, you'll make her day. Girl Code.
5. Be honest about her wardrobe.
Be honest, DOES that dress make her look fat? Those jeans are hugging all the wrong places. The other shirt looked way better than the one she has on right now. Her skirt is tucked into her underwear. You can see the top of her bra hanging out of her top. Her tag is hanging out. Those leggings are totally see through. Or, I'm going to go there, her tampon string is out in her bathing suit. Tell her. Would you want to be walking around looking like a fool? If you tell her, she'll probably tell you about the hole in the back of your pants. Girl Code.
6. Carry feminine products on you.
ALWAYS keep Tampons or pads on you, even when it isn't your time of the month. You never know when Auntie Flow is going to hit one of your friends, or even a stranger in the mall bathroom for that matter, and it's always good to have each other's back. Girl Code.
7. Pretend to be her lover to get her away from him.
Random guy hitting on your friend at the bar? Time to play the "fake- lesbian" game. Grab her hand, call her babe, kiss her if you really have to. Anything to get that guy away from her and thinking that she isn't into guys. It's the least you can do, since he's kind of creepy anyway. Girl Code.
8. Be her wing woman.
When that boy at the bar isn't creepy, and she's totally digging it, you've got to take one for the team and be her wing woman. Talk her up, get his friend away from him. Anything you can do so she can make her move. Single girls have to meet guys somehow, and there's always room for a little help from her friends. Girl Code.
9. Be a shoulder to cry on.
Girlfriend just called you crying? Grab a tub of ice cream, a bottle of wine and cancel your plans for the night, she needs you. Walked outside your apartment and see a girl crying on the stairs? You're going to be a little late to class today, because she needs somebody to hear her out. Never leave another girl crying, stranger or friend. Girl Code.
10. She told you that in confidence.
Unless she told you that she is hurting herself, you can't tell anyone what she told you in confidence. It is not your place to tell her ex about her new boy. It is not your place to answer your other friend's questions about who she went out with last night. Those were secrets told to YOU that she doesn't want other people to know. Girl Code.
Being a girl is already hard enough, so why do we make it harder on the fellow females around us? We're all tired of back stabbing girls, so let's stop being rude to each other and help each other out.
Think of anything I missed?! Help me out and post them in the comments below! After all, It's Girl Code.
