What has happened to the girls of this generation? Where are all of the young and ambitious girls who have wanted to become the first female President of the United States, to become a CEO of their own business, to become the best lawyer of our nation and to become the No. 1 doctor in the world? When did the most important accomplishment become making sure that every single guy in the room loves you and to be viewed as the sexiest female that has ever lived?
This weekend, I went to a party, and I don't believe I have ever seen as many death stares from other girls to other girls as I did at that party. Every room I walked into had girls eyeing each other and making fun of the outfits that other girls were wearing, calling them attention whores, sluts and crazy. Why? What is wrong with wearing an outfit that makes you feel attractive and pretty? Why are we constantly beating down each other? Instead, we should be supporting one another and empowering each other. If we don't, what we say is going to become OK for everyone else to say about us as females. We don't want others to start believing that all we want in life is a man and that we will do anything to have them, do we? Do we want everyone to believe that our biggest concern is what we are going to wear to the next party and that we are all getting plastic surgery to perfect ourselves the best way that we can? Do we want to be known as attention whores, sluts and desperate by society? Because all we have to do is continue acting the way we are and soon that is how society will see us all.
Why has it become so easy for guys to talk and get with us? We wonder where chivalry went and why guys treat us like candy they can pick out in a candy shop, and it's all because we make things so easy for them. Who said that you had to give everything away on the first date you go on? Why is "talking" so much cooler to go on dates? Has any girl recently been on a date where the guy held the door open for her, actually paid for everything and didn't leave with anything else that night except a kiss goodnight?
Why has putting the perfect selfie on Instagram become the most important thing in the world? Why do we girls put pictures up online that guys can make googly eyes at and save on their phones forever? The only thing we should ever send to another is our beautiful smile and everything else should be put away. Guys aren't trying anymore because they can easily see what they want in Snapchat stories and online instead of trying to sway you. This is why we need to start posting pictures of the amazing times we had with our beautiful friends and our accomplishments instead of the the "perfect" lipstick we decided to wear that day.
Why have we made it so easy for guys to have what they want? None of us should even consider having a Tinder just so guys can find us and hook-up with us. It's no wonder why so many of us end up with our hearts broken as we tend to give everything we have to a guy we learned about on the Internet, instead of talking to them in person over coffee. We are too precious, beautiful and wonderful to not make life a little challenging for the guys who want to be with us. If we want to be treated like princesses, then we need to start treating ourselves like one.
And why do we talk about our friends behind their backs to others? This seriously needs to stop. We put all of our times and energy in these friendships just to have them ruined and broken when someone gets jealous and talks behind their best friend's back. Why are we letting their achievements in life make us jealous instead of being proud of our friend and all they have? So they have a boyfriend? Why don't you get to know him? So they get to go on this cool trip this summer and are leaving you behind—why are you going to hate on them for that? Even if you believe that your best friend is prettier then you, why are we bringing them down for that? It's seriously no wonder why so many of us have eating disorders and hate who we are when our best friends so easily talk bad about us the second they get mad. If we get hurt about something, we need to tell each other instead of whispering behind each others' backs and making the situation worse. We need to start caring about each other again and stop letting our low self esteems fuel our need to be better than each other.
And actually why don't we love the way we look anymore? Why do we let society tell us that we are ugly, fat, skinny or not beautiful? Why can't we believe our own eyes and not change a thing about ourselves? If you want the freakin' cookie, then eat it! We only live on this Earth for a short amount of time, so why are we wasting our time eating salads and working out when all it does is make us angry? If you like ice cream, then eat it. If you like cake, then bake it and enjoy it. As long as you are healthy, it should not matter what you eat or do as long as you are happy with yourself. Plus, we are all going to end up wrinkly and old eventually, so what's the point of starving ourselves to be pretty anyway?
We are beautiful and we need to start believing that. We don't need to give ourselves up after one night just to hear how beautiful we are from others. We don't need to take our clothes off to get attention at parties, nor do we need to cake on the makeup to turn ourselves into something we are not. We need to stop using Tinder and making everything so easy for the guys around us if we want to be taken on dates and treated like princesses again. We need to stop poking, pulling and punching the body parts we stare at in the mirror and hate because those are what make us unique and beautiful. As girls, we need to stop worrying about being the prettiest, and putting our fellow girls down in order to feel that way because—guess what—there is always going to be someone who you believe is prettier than you. But, no one is going to be ever be you, with all your smartness, kindness, humor and warmth, and that is what makes you so amazing. As girls, we need to focus on our dreams and band together to become the great generation we believe we can be. Nothing is sexier than being empowered, and only together can we achieve that.
So please, stop criticizing other girls to make yourself feel better, and please stop making your ultimate goal to be beautiful. There is so much more to life than that, I promise, and together we can accomplish that. Make friends with the girl in the crop top at the party, and roll your eyes at the guy who doesn't believe in dating. Raise your standards and the world will raise theirs, too. It's time to show everyone that the little girls who wanted to be the president, the CEO, the lawyer and the doctor are coming and can't wait to take the world by storm.
