There are so many reasons to love watching "The Bachelorette" — the tears, the brawls, the hunky men. But, like with all "reality" TV, much of the drama seems fabricated for channel ratings. I've seen many seasons of "The Bachelorette" (and its counterpart "The Bachelor"), and between the stiff cocktail parties and crocodile tear-filled rose ceremonies, the program can teach us some lessons on relationships.

1. It's OK to date around.

Casual dating does not make you a slut. Period. If JoJo can juggle 25 guys at once, then so can you. So, go grab tacos tonight with Wells and catch a flick tomorrow night with James (but never with Chad).

2. Dating is not easy.

Dating can leave you feeling like a hopeless piece of crap. The situations in "The Bachelorette" may be staged, but real-life situations feel just as dramatic. Relationships can be difficult, but you hope they're worth it.

3. Pay attention to how your S.O. treats their friends.

And not just that, but how they treat those interacting with them in general. If your partner doesn't respect friends, family or strangers, there will probably come a day they don't respect you. Basically, stay away from the Chads of the world.

4. You have to let go of some relationships, even when you're in love.

You may love someone, but your long-term goals don't match up. Or there's distance that's too much to handle. Or you're filming a reality show and are required to eliminate someone. The list goes on. Falling in love and then knowing you should end the relationship is an indescribable pain, but it's sometimes necessary.

5. Your relationship is your own and no one else's.

I can't tell you the amount of times I've screamed at my TV screen, "Nooo! She's sending him home? But why? He's so perfect!" We see glimpses of a relationship; we don't know what happens off camera and we can't feel the chemistry. In the real world, it's the same. Try not to judge, and take other people's judgments with a grain of salt.

6. Be true to yourself.

Whatever you bring into a relationship — whether that be a mobile cupcake or a "unicorn" — keep your individualism; it's easy to change who you are when you're trying to impress someone else.

7. Getting in touch with your emotion is essential ... kind of.

Many contestants on "The Bachelorette" have gone home because they couldn't "open up," a.k.a. get emotional and have meaningful conversations. This is important when looking for a life partner, but watching this season made me realize I need a completely different love than JoJo right now. It's OK to be young and have fun, carefree relationships. Pursue the intensity of relationship you need at this moment in your life.

8. Choose your words carefully.

It's no secret that communication is key in any relationship. So choose your words and old-timey phrases carefully.

9. Don't let others influence the pace of your relationship.

On "The Bachelorette," only the fast-paced ones survive because contestants have little time to spend with their girlfriend. But in the real world, you can spend more than a few group dates and cocktail parties together. Don't compare the speed of your relationship to others; do what's right for you and your partner.

10. You can fall in love anywhere.

Even as a contestant on a reality TV show (or with the cameraman).