It's happened to everyone. You find that one person who changes the way you look at life. You wake up every morning to a text message and they're the last person you talk to before you start dreaming at night. They made the sun a little brighter and the air a little sweeter. Then at the blink of an eye, what you knew to be reality was taken from you. There were a lot of sleepless nights, tears and ice cream, and pointless advice from people who haven't been through anything a day in their life. However, fear not. Here are 5 easy tips to "find your peace" after a hard break up.
1. Be social!
Although staying in the house after a traumatic breakup sounds appealing to most, it doesn't do your body any good. Of course you want to have time to yourself to analyze and wipe the tears, but hanging out with people who love you reminds you that there is still life after that significant other.
2. Don't forget to love yourself.
Never take the blame. Beating yourself up over anything tears down self esteem. Remember that you are absolutely amazing, and everything happens for a reason; good or bad. This is a good time to work on yourself. Whether you have self esteem issues, trust issues, or maybe even commitment issues, this is the time to practice being happy alone. Of course it doesn't find too fun, but it will definitely pay off in the end!
3. Unfollow, unfriend, unsubscribe.
Out of sight, out of mind. There is absolutely no reason so see them on your timeline, IG feed, or homepage on Facebook. Some might disagree, but it really works. Despite how much you want to look, do not, and I repeat DO NOT look at their pages. It really just makes things worse. Nobody wants to see their ex in a picture with someone new. With that being said, don't even do it to yourself.
4. Talk about it, then stop.
Let it all out. Venting is a great coping mechanism. After letting out all of the tight emotions that were inside, you will feel much better. However, there becomes a point in time where everything becomes a redundancy. Give yourself time to heal! Talking about him/her just reopens wounds.
5. Accept and find comfort.
Everything happens for a reason, and everyone has a specific path they're supposed to follow. Relax! A friend once told me "every loss is a steppingstone to joy." This is not the end. At the end of the day, you are still you. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and what has now come to an end will bring on bigger and better opportunities and relationships. There is a lesson learned in every relationship, and that lesson will be remembered forever.
My tips might have to be used more than once, and one might have to be used more than others. However, you will be okay. This too shall pass, and you'll be better than the relationship before. Life is about living and learning. Keep your head up, and make something great happen!
