Alright ladies, so if you have yet to notice this is real. We are officially adults, officially college freshmen. We have made our first grocery runs for only ourselves, we have made friends that will more than likely last a lifetime, we have been away from our parents, some of us for the first time, for more than a week. We are adults.
Now don't get me wrong, I am beyond ready for this chapter in my life but this whole "adulting" thing is scary. As the brilliant Meridith Grey said "We're adults. When did that happen? How can we make it stop?" Life doesn't pause just because we aren't ready for what is coming. We have no choice but to adult now. If any of you are anything like me, you've been independent for a while, but something about this kind of independence, without even the slightest hope of parental guidance, is so very different and out of the ordinary. It is this strange sense of newfound adulthood that leads us to our first fears on campus: are we capable of doing this? Should we just quit now while we are ahead?
These fears, although totally reasonable, are a bit unnecessary. I mean think about it, you can live out these first few weeks fretting over whether or not you are going make it in this "adulting" world or you can suck it up, be a woman, and kick fear's ass. If you dwell in the fear you give it more power over you. Forget about how scary it could be and embrace how great it is going to be. Sure, fear is going to happen and you should definitely always feel those feels but set a limit to it. You aren't really living if you're living in fear right?
Some of the fears stem from not having our parents around and I 100% get that. I miss my parents and my brother more than I could have ever dreamed I would but why let that hold you back and limit you? Yes, we miss our families. Yes, we miss our friends from home. But it's not like we've died or anything. Pretty soon we will see all of these people that we miss and it will be joyous and amazing. Then we will return to our new worlds where we have made new friends and have new family members. To some, that's a weird thing to say, right? New family members ..what is she talking about? But here at Converse, we are a sisterhood. Our friends are not only our friends, they are our sisters and we will share this bond forever.
We all miss our lives back in our hometowns right now but in order to begin our lives here we must let go of the hold we have to those hometowns and begin to realize that maybe it's okay we are adults now. It doesn't matter when it truly started. And we don't need to make it stop.