Change is a bitch.
Honestly, there isn't really much else to say regarding the matter. No matter how good or bad the change turns out to be in the long term span of things, the initial transition can be a headache, a heartache, or a total pain. However, change is unavoidable and college is a big source of change. By leaving the nest and embarking on our own journeys, we discover our independence along with many other things in regard to ourselves. We discover our strengths and our weaknesses. Which, in reality, can be a phenomenal thing.
But, as I said before, change is a bitch. So, sometimes accepting change is hard, especially in situations where the change makes us feel vulnerable.
For example, breaking off old friendships and relationships. Meeting new people and realizing what true friendship is can sometimes force us to take a step back and analyze the friends we used to have in high school. Were they really trust worthy? Did they care about me as much as I cared about them? Looking back on this can be hard, but it's necessary. You're a different person now than you were 6 months ago.
YOU HAVE CHANGED. Welcome it. Embrace it.
Come to the realization that very few things last forever. Cut off those "friends" that you know no longer deserve your time and effort. Spend more time with the true friends that you have. Don't be afraid to make tough choices as long as they benefit YOU. Be narcissistic for crying out loud. I know you can do it boo, I believe in you. *throws up a fist pump*
As for changes in relationships, those can be the absolute worst. Your first love and your high school sweetheart can suddenly and easily turn into just another face in the crowd. You thought she was the one. You thought he was your soulmate. But then, suddenly college becomes too much for the relationship to handle. Your problems escalate. You break up.
It's sad, but it happens. Even Ross and Rachael on "Friends" broke up, people. It. Happens.
Not every relationship is meant to be. It's an unwelcome change, but it may be necessary. You will find someone new, who will love you far better than they ever could. Or, if it really is meant to be, your paths will cross again. The future after all, is unknown.
Until then however, focus on yourself. Change the way you look at things and do things even though it may make you uncomfortable. Spoil yourself. Enjoy the things that you love to do. Wear what you want to wear. Change yourself into the individual that YOU wish to be. We're getting old now. It's time to start thinking about your own happiness. Everything else that matters will come along with the process.
I'm changing myself! I'm doing more things for Kaila. I'm hanging out with my true friends more. I'm writing more, watching more episodes of The Office, and going out for pizza more because I damn well deserve it. (My hips might not but that's beside the point) I'm embracing my own independence and the changes that come with it. Even though it's tough to let go of the past, I know that this is better for me in the future.
So, welcome unwelcome change. Become someone who is entirely proud of who they are and the life they live, even if it means making hard choices. As Shia says, JUST DO IT!
(side-note: Yes, this is pretty upbeat and cheesy but hey, if it makes someonesmile it's not all for nothing right?)
