Jess stole our hearts the moment he appeared on Stars Hallows. He had the bad boy vibe we all like, and that made us want to be with him. Then, some time went by and we realize how Jesse is the guy we actually never want to date, but oh boy how much we want to date him. While watching Gilmore Girls after a break-up, I realize we should have the experience of dating someone like Jess Mariano at least once in our lives.

I know it sounds crazy, but hear me out. Jess is a guy who didn’t know how to treat people well. He had a really bad temper, he didn’t respect people’s time and he was really rude. Just look at him when he first met Emily Gilmore. Granted, you need a valium –or two- whenever you are around that woman but Jess was a complete asshole when he visited her.

He was always getting into fights and he was not going to graduate from high school because he decided to skip classes so he can work on Walmart. He acted really aggressively when Rory didn’t want to sleep with him –in a party- and left for California without saying bye to his girlfriend. He was the worst –but better looking- boyfriend ever.

So why I say we all need to date someone like him? I truly believe that everything happens for a reason, that everything you go through is either a blessing or a lesson. I believe dating someone like Jess is necessary for the experience it gives you. To understand that sometimes the heart wants something, but it is important to put ourselves first and know what we truly deserve. I’m not saying that you deserve a guy who will cross the world to see you just for a day (well, maybe you do) but you sure deserve a guy who will call you when he is running late or when he can’t make it to your date. You deserve a guy who will put you first and will want you to be happy. You deserve a guy who will apologize after screaming at you because he had a crappy day. You deserve happiness

Dating a Jess can be painful and the breakup even worst. But everything is part of the knowledge that something better will come along, and that staying with a Jess is not the right choice. Sometimes you have to let your brain win over your heart, and stop living in a relationship just because of love, and not because of happiness.