I have never been the type of girl to go spend the night at boys' houses or hook up with random guys at a party. I'm often eager to agree to go on dates with people, but the chance of me actually following through with such plans are slim. I love the idea of meeting new people, but I hate the moments to follow.
Over the past few months I have noticed a trend. I'm bored with boys who send Snapchats of the corner of their faces. I'm over 'wyd' texts two hours later. I'm done with accepting less than what I deserve.
Yes, I know this sounds dramatic, and that I'm 'just a young woman who needs to have fun,' but I'm being brutally honest. I don't like boys.
Growing up and seeing everyone in middle school and high school in relationships, I felt like I was missing something. I hardly ever had dates to dances that were boys, and I never went on after-school dates. I didn't find my first real boyfriend until I was about to graduate. Today, I am still single.
Yes, it is by choice. I talk to lots of boys everyday, and I probably could've had a boyfriend by now if I tried, but none of the boys I find are right for me. I think that's the problem; I usually only talk to boys. I found out over time that I simply do not like boys.
I like men. Men who ask for your number, not your Snapchat. Men who make the first move, men who make the reservations, men who are emotionally available.
Call me old-fashioned, but I love being asked on dates in person. I love phone calls. I love $5 bouquets and post-it note messages left behind. I want to find true romance with someone I can grow and succeed with.
I think what triggered my realization of all of this was when I was talking to a boy a few months ago, While I was working two jobs and heading the gym everyday after, he was sitting home doing nothing. If I find a boyfriend, I want matched energy. Goals, ambitions, activity, the whole nine yards.
I'm a young woman and I'm tired of boys. I want a man, and I won't settle for anything else.