"The theological virtue of hope is the patient and trustful willingness to live without CLOSURE, without resolution, and still be content and even happy because our Satisfaction is now at another level, and our Source is beyond ourselves." - Richard Rohr
To everything there is a season, A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up.
Within finding ones truth, closure is one of the most important things we need as humans. In my last article I gave you a couple steps to help find your zen state of mind. One step in the article that I purposely left out was the step of finding closure. Some people spend a lifetime seeking an apology they will never get, while some others allow the mistakes of others to make their heart bitter. While holding onto these bitter feelings you are blocking your own blessings. You are hindering yourself from the very thing that you are praying to God for.
We all have been through a break down season, or as my grandmother commonly refers to it as a "test." Often times we continuously go through certain lessons because we keep making the same mistakes. These mistakes that we keep making are to be considered a test, and God being the forgiving God that he is, will allow us to keep taking a test until we pass it. While growing up I never fully understood this concept until more recently in my life. Their is a blessing within the lesson, this phrase, along with life lesson helped me to understand that we have to go through things to make us a better person. But while going through these things you need to learn how to forgive and let go of things that hurt you.
So now that we understand that forgiveness is just not for that person who did you wrong, but forgiveness is more-so for you as a person. Sometimes we have to forgive those without them even asking to be forgiven.
Heres a fun little exercise to help you find closure in things seen and unseen!
1. A Time To Break Down
Sit back relax, mediate and think of something that is still hurting you, think of something that could possibly be hindering you from your greater and you not being able to realize it. Write that moment down on a piece of paper.
(While doing this exercise I really want you to dig deep into yourself, and write all of your hurt down on this sheet of paper. Write down the biggest things and even the smallest of things.)
2. A Time To Heal
Read what you just wrote down on this piece of paper, make sure you understand why you wrote this down. Understand why this is hurting you the way that it is. Find peace with what you have written down.
3. A Time To Kill
Now I would like for you to tear the paper up into a thousand pieces. In this moment of tearing this piece of paper you are now killing all things that have hurt you that you are keeping within, you are releasing the bad enegery and negative vibes from your life. Once you have no more paper to tear, you no longer have a reason to be in pieces with the things that have hurt you.
4. A Time To Build Up
This last type is the easiest step, all you have to do now is forgive and let go all these things that no longer exist. Once you wrote those things on that sheet of paper and tear it up, those things began to no longer exist within your life. So now go out and live and be you, with no more hurt, pain and suffering of the things that people have done to you.
