So first off, I know what you're thinking. "I KNEW IT!!! They eat live children!" But alas, vegan's do not eat babies and the photo choice was purely for aesthetic.
I personally love Chinese/ Taiwanese/ Nepalese food. It’s so tasty and looks so good, especially in little take-out boxes. Yup, that just does it for me. But sometimes it can be difficult for a vegan to eat there if you don’t know what to look for. So here’s what I do to make it a most pleasurable experience.
1. Always ask if you’re unsure. “Hey, is this chicken broth?” or “Did you use fish sauce on this?” It never hurts to be sure.
2. Just veg out. I love piling my plate with plain rice and loads of steamed veggies. It’s so nutritious and yummy. I never like to eat heavy and this is a perfect alternative.
3. For appetizers choose veggie spring rolls, fried tofu nuggets (they’re good, I swear), or pickled cabbage and cucumber.
4. You can never go wrong with soup. I always fill up with a nice Vegetable Tofu Soup. OMG it’s a delicacy that warms your throat and enlightens your taste buds.
5. For dessert they always carry fresh fruits like star fruit, lychee (my favorite), and yummy sweet potato (not a fruit) which serves its purpose. Stay simple and clean and you’ll never go wrong.
6. Try some breakfast buns topped with soy milk. TO DIE FOR!!! They’re filled with fruits, veggies, jams, and they’re ALL VEGAN. But ask to be certain.
7. Always try the boba tea or bubble tea. It’s definitely vegan (unless the place uses milk) and so delicious. You’re living like the locals (kind of).
8. Have you ever tried Tofu fried rice?
9. Or garlic eggplant? If you ask most will make them for you. They’re super kind.
10. And if you’re feeling extra zesty order a spinach and peanuts dish. It will tingle your palette and it’s so very yummy. I’m quite the sucker for peanuts so…..
Summer: a time (usually) free from school work and a time to relax with your friends and family. Maybe you go on a vacation or maybe you work all summer, but the time off really does help. When you're in college you become super close with so many people it's hard to think that you won't see many of them for three months. But, then you get that text saying, "Hey, clear your schedule next weekend, I'm coming up" and you begin to flip out. Here are the emotions you go through as your best friend makes her trip to your house.
Excitement
It's actually happening!!! Your partner in crime decided to come to town and you could not be happier. You begin to think of all the places you're going to take her and where you're going to eat. You maybe even deicide there's just too many things and not enough time, so eating two dinners, just because, sounds like a real possibility.
Now you have to wait. Maybe she's driving in from a few hours away or maybe she lives across the country. Is she going to get lost? Did her flight get delayed? The suspense is literally killing you. Regardless, you're sitting in your room waiting for your phone to light up saying she just got in.
She's pulling into your driveway! Your better half is finally here and you nearly bust your a** running down your steps. It's surreal, but now you get to hit the town with your bestie. This is the best day of your life!! (not really but it feels pretty close).
Now the fun begins. You eat at all your favorite restaurants, watch movies with your family and just catch up on all that you've missed (even though you've texted every day since you left campus). You introduce her to your friends from home and your brother begins to think that you're actually connected at the hip.
And just like that, your perfect bubble is popped and it's time to go back to the real world. Your buddy has to go home and you couldn't be more upset. Thank God for FaceTime because that's all you'll be doing until the fall when you're back together.
Winter break is over, we're all back at our respective colleges, and the first week of classes is underway. This is a little bit how that week tends to go.
The professor starts to go over something more than the syllabus
Whether you specialized in ringing people up or preparing the food, if you worked at Panera Bread it holds a special place in your heart. Here are some signs that you worked at Panera in high school.
1. You own so many pairs of khaki pants you don’t even know what to do with them
Definitely the worst part about working at Panera was the uniform and having someone cute come in. Please don’t look at me in my hat.
2. Chips, apple or bread is probably your most repeated phrase
Not only do you say this all day, but you say it in your sleep. Sometimes you even wonder what Ryan Gosling would choose (chips, definitely). You also silently judged the people who chose apples over bread.
3. Taking bakery items with you out to parties was a must
Nothing beats loading up on cookies and leftover pastries on a weekend night closing shift and showing up to a party with your goodies. Your friends lived for it.
4. Taking bakery items home to your parents was also a must (if you wanted to live)
Your dad texted you to make sure you brought him home at least one Cobblestone muffin. Maybe three.
5. Your friends expected you to give them free stuff
No Jill, I can’t give you a candy cookie right now.
6. Being put on dishes made you question humanity
Have you ever tried to scrape wet, soapy mac and cheese out of a bowl? Not the greatest past time, let me tell you.
7. You saw everyone and their mother (especially their mothers)
Moms LOVE Panera. So do high school kids.
8. Working the opening shift was actually the worst thing to ever happen to you
Even if you only did it once, coming in at 5 am took a toll on your life.
9. Being able to predict what people would order
Group of middle schoolers? Mac and cheese in a bread bowl. Teenage boy? Chipotle Chicken Sandwich. Moms? Fuji Apple Chicken Salad. It’s a gift.
10. Making coffee was your least favorite thing to do
Honestly, carrying those things when they were full was a great arm workout.
11.Being put on the dining room was the absolute WORST
I really don’t want to walk around cleaning tables and putting people’s plates away for them. (FYI, customers are supposed to put those away. Just saying).
You've been so isolated at home that you forgot you actually have a lot of friends at IUP. Yet when you go out you still manage to see a million people you've never seen. How this is possible after so many semesters at IUP I’ll never know.
Syllabus week dies and once the semester starts to kick in you slowly realize how much work you have to do, but you’re ready to go and put the work in. You feel like after you’ve had a break full of rest you can put your full effort in. This is about to be your best semester yet, you hope.
7. Everything's adding up, you've been through hell and back
With more people becoming aware of transgender and non-binary people, there have been a lot of questions circulating online and elsewhere about how to be more inclusive. Language is very important in making a space safer for trans and non-binary individuals. With language, there is an established and built-in measure of whether a place could be safe or unsafe. If the wrong language is used, the place is unsafe and shows a lack of education on trans and non-binary issues. With the right language and education, there can be more safe spaces for trans and non-binary people to exist without feeling the need to hide their identities or feel threatened for merely existing.
1. Use singular they for people whose pronouns you don't know, people who use those pronouns, and stop using him/her.
One of the most common, and often cluttered, phrases I hear when people try to talk about a person whose gender is unknown is he/she, him/her, (s)he. This is not only clunky and annoying to say, but ignores the fact that not everyone uses those pronouns or identifies as a man or a woman. When you say he/she you're really forgetting part of the population and making a lot of assumptions about people you don't know. This also goes for assuming a stranger's gender -- how someone presents isn't an indication of the gender they are or the pronouns they use. By assuming, you're misgendering someone before you even know them, when it is totally easy to use them, where you are assuming nothing. Singular they has been in use for hundreds of years. Using it will declutter language and create an environment in the world that allows for transgender and non-binary people to not be misgendered.
2. Stop using the words "opposite sex" or "both sexes" or "opposite gender" or "both genders".
Not only is this language erasing of transgender people outside the binary, but it is also erasing intersex people. The idea of the opposite of gender or sex, first of all, makes no sense. There is no opposite when it comes to biology, and since there are more than two sexes and more than two genders, there can be no opposite and no both (both implies two). Replace this language with all sexes or all genders and just get rid of the idea of opposite gender or sex from your mind and vocabulary entirely.
3. Ask people's pronouns when you meet them.
In order to help create a safer environment for trans and non-binary people, asking for pronouns and educating others on why you're asking is an important step. This allows the person to give you the pronouns they want you to use and stops you from assuming their gender, misgendering them and making them uncomfortable and hurt. This is something that is good to normalize is every conversation, not just in LGBTQIA+ spaces or in spaces that you suspect trans and non-binary people might be. Trans and non-binary people are everywhere and the more common asking about pronouns becomes, the less people will be misgendered.
4. Use the word cisgender.
The word cisgender means that you identify with the gender you are assigned at birth. Basically, not transgender or non-binary. Using the word cisgender helps stop the idea that being trans or non-binary is 'abnormal' and that cisgender is the norm. It is a term that has existed for a long time. Using the term cisgender also, as the picture above says, helps to maintain that all gender experiences are valid, and all right rather than abnormal.
5. Stop saying "born a boy/girl" about a transgender or non-binary person.
I can't stress how annoying and upsetting this phrasing is and I hear it all the time by people who claim to be allies and people who are completely ignorant. No one is 'born' anything. Your gender and sex assignment are things that are given to you when you are born. This also is essentially outing trans and non-binary people to people who they don't know, misgenders them, and continues to hold up cis-sexist and transphobic ideas that one is born a gender and that their gender is innate and unchanging. It provides people with unnecessary and personal information about someone's genitals (since that is really what someone is saying when saying born a boy/girl). If someone is saying this, they are telling you the make up of someone's genitals, which is completely unnecessary and invasive. You don't need to mention what someone was assigned at birth.
While the term is better than not asking at all, it still really isn't a good term. The word preferred implies that these pronouns are wanted, but optional when that is not the case. My pronouns and other transgender people and non-binary people's pronouns are not optional; they are absolutely required. If you want to ask for someone's pronouns just ask 'what pronouns do you use?'. The word preferred isn't needed because it isn't preferred, it's required.
7. Stop using a transgender or non-binary person's dead name.
The term dead name means someone's name before they changed it (if they changed it). You have no right to use or know that name. It isn't a name the person uses anymore and to use it is disrespectful and violent. Saying things like 'Before Doug was Doug he went by ____" is not okay. Not only does it out someone as transgender or non-binary, it gives someone very personal and unnecessary information. Having a dead name used is hurtful and makes me instantly not trust someone. Do not ask for someone's dead name: there is no need for you to know it; it is not their name. Before you say something like the above example, think about why you're saying it. Is that really relevant to the conversation? Why do you feel the need to share this incredibly personal information that you have no right to share? Plain and simple: don't use someone's dead name. It's disrespectful and cruel.
While this list is only a basic introduction to improving language and making spaces safer, there are plenty more ways and articles that can provide more information and education. Learning and unlearning is a process that is incredibly important to making spaces safer for trans and non-binary people.