Insecurity, it's one of the most common feelings a young woman encompasses as they are finding who they truly are. The world, society, and even people make them feel like you have to look, act, and be a certain way to get through life. Is society's views of us fogging what is the truth? or do you need to look a certain way to get through life?

If you want to know what society thinks is perfect just look around you. You have to have the perfect body, no fat insight. You have to at least have a 4.0 GPA and know more than one language. You have to be better than anyone else. The problem with that? No one is the same. No two person has the same mindset. No one is built the same. The mindset that is built around beauty is a size two and big boobs. If you have that, awesome, you are the goals I have wanted to hit since my third trimester. When it comes down to it, women are prone to comparing how they look to other women. The problem is that when comparing happens, tearing the other one down becomes more than just savagery. It becomes hurtful.

We have all done it. I am certainly a major contender to bashing a woman who I feel is a threat, The problem is that comparing a person to another does not help you grow, it makes a part of you feel like you just are not good enough. That statement is false all on its own. Every person has something to put on the table. Everyone has something that is a selling point, a winning feature that no one else can compare with. Beauty is not just looks, its personality, its smarts, its the whole package. What causes the comparison between woman to woman? Almost always it's related to a man.

When you lose a guy you really liked or loved it can be so detrimental to you, it can almost make you lose yourself. Sometimes a girl can even be a zombie for months. Everyone does it. They sob as they look at their Facebook or Twitter. They see the person they poured their soul into like another girls picture or comment on their status, So, of course, we lurk. We want to know who this person is and what they have that you do not possess. You want to show your girls, "hey. what does this girl have that I don't?" we have all done it. I still do it and my friends want to throw me off a building half the time because of it. When we know the girl is pretty we often put them down. I know because I am so guilty of doing this. It is not right.

As a gender, we should be lifting the other up. I understand if she stole your man, let her have the piece of trash man. Do not compare yourself to her, though. Everyone possesses a gift that no one else has. God chose it for you to stand out. If you do not know your gift, in due time it will show itself. Mine was writing. Yours will be something different, and just the same exciting revelation as mine was. Love yourself and others ladies, because we need to make comparisons stop, and self-worth the goal. We are all born to be something. We are all beautiful.