I was scrolling through Pinterest a little while back trying to get some inspiration before getting my hair done. When I first clicked the app and before I searched my desired hair color, the front page was covered in articles aimed towards girls about how to be "enough" for a guy and things to do to "keep your man interested".
I was horrified.
Before scrolling by I clicked on them, I wanted to read it and I truly hoped the article was different than the title made it out to be.
It was not.
These articles had lists and lists of ways young girls and women everywhere could keep a man.
These lists included things such as "whenever he wants sex, have sex" or "clean his house while he is having a guys night." I was once again horrified.
Girls, it has never, nor will ever be your job to keep a man interested.
To the young girls reading this, everything you are is enough. Everything you want to be is enough. You can live your life the way you want and in the right time and in the right moment things will fall in its place and he (or she) will fall into place, whoever he (or she) is. Your job is never, ever to keep him interested or make him believe you are enough. He should already know.
If the man you are with is not interested in where you are from or who your favorite high school teacher was, he is not the one. If that man is not interested in how you want your coffee in the morning or how you need a snack every night before bed (and your favorite one), he is not the one. If he is not interested in your anxiety and the way you freak out in crowds or the way school work intimidates you sometimes, he is not one. If he is not interested in your best friends, your hobbies or your favorite lazy Sunday movie, he is not the one.
If a man thinks what makes you enough is you stripping down at his say so, instead of the way you hold his hand in public and dance like an idiot around Target together, he is not the one. If he thinks what makes you enough is your ability to make a bed or a sandwich instead of your ability to make him laugh and make him love like he never has before, he is not the one. If he thinks what makes you enough is the materialistic things you buy him instead of the way you can make a mean bowl of cereal for dinner or make a complete mess in the kitchen and refuse to clean it up, he is not the one.
Girls, my point is everything you are and everything you do that makes you uniquely you, is enough for him and is what should keep him interested. These articles that state otherwise is not true. You have everything you need within you, every stupid quirk, every weird habit, all of that is who you truly are and is who she keep him interested.
At the end of the day, the only thing you should have to do to "keep him interested" is yourself and nothing more.
"I will tell you this again and again and again; you are enough. You are so incredibly enough."
