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Relationships are a fun part of life. Our partner may be our greatest supporter and the biggest impact on our lives. This person can be your best friend and your confidant, as they should be lifting you up and growing right along with you.

For me, I have a special person in my life who loves me for me and never wishes for anything about me to change. I struggle with self-doubt and worry that my goals are a little bit too high sometimes. My partner knows my hopes and dreams, just as good as he has his own and he encourages me to keep reaching for the stars.

I can remember one time we were talking about life and dreams and I expressed to him that I was worried that my goals might not be achievable for me. I even said that I didn't think that someone like me could even do something like that. My partner leaned into me and said, “You know that I would not change anything about you, but actually I just wish that you would give yourself a little bit more love because you owe it to yourself completely."

Those words spoke magnitudes into my discouraged self at that time. I broke down in tears and hugged him and thanked him for being him and loving me for just being me. I am so thankful that someone like him was brought into my life to pour encouragement and faith into my spirit because the Lord knows that I need that sometimes.

Being with someone who is constantly positive and pushes you to be the best version of yourself is something that you deserve. You deserve love, support, faith, and a partner that pours all of this to you no matter what.

Through the good times and the bad times, this person should be there through it all. It's okay for times to get hard and for temperatures to rise, but it's not okay for your person to discourage you and belittle you while you're already down.

I know that I am not perfect and that I can't fix everything that I don't like about myself. But what is right and what is true is that I can reach my dreams and that the person that is standing next to my side will support me through it all.

After all, I really did realize that his words to me were something that I needed to hear exactly at that time. I was down in the dumps and doubting myself and he picked me right back up and told me that I can do it as long as I show myself some love first.

Right now, this is where I'm at. I'm trying to make myself the best version that I can be and working through the bumps in the road to get to my final stop and I know that no matter what I can get there. But most importantly, I need to love myself first.

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3. Making random men nervous with your superior beauty and intense eye contact just for the hell of it is really amusing and empowering.

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5. The toilet seat will remain down.

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7. There's always this secret butterfly in your tummy that marvels at the possibility that when you go out this weekend you're gonna meet someone super handsome/wonderful/prince-like and have this moment of dazzling dalliance.

8. Nothing is that serious...you can take it all with a grain of salt...you don't owe anybody anything.

9. You can dance with anyone and everyone...or no one (Hello frat boi w/ glasses, I see you).

10. You don't have to fluff anyone's ego but your own.

11. Free drinks and dinners from single guys (It's not taking advantage if they're offering; a girl's gotta eat).

12. You have more time to learn how to love and improve yourself rather than constantly pouring your energy into another person.

13. You don't have to sacrifice your cheesy Jen Aniston rom-coms and Gilmore Girls for his Fast and Furious/other dumb action movie featuring blonde that is only in the movie to supply a relationship to the male lead and to make him look more masculine/empowered in juxtaposition (In other words, you don't have to deal with a guy being a crabby Patty while you watch your cute movies).

14. You can daydream about what your future husband may be doing right now (and not get stressed/guilty out because you're not picturing your current boyfriend that's crazy about you as your future husband).

15. There is more time to be spent with your girlfriends.

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Each sign is determined by the relative positions of celestial bodies to ourselves at our moment of birth, which is said to influence our personalities. Find your zodiac GIF below, based on the traits and characteristics provided by each sign.

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