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An Open Letter To The Girl Trying To Do It All

It's okay to say no once in a while.

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An Open Letter To The Girl Trying To Do It All
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You're young and life is flashing before your eyes. You have school, a great group of friends, an active family life and activities you volunteer to be a part of left and right. On top of that, you work a part time job to pay for your car and that school you go to.

You fill your life with every possible thing because you're afraid life will pass you by if you don't experience it all. You have a hard time saying no when some one asks, "can you do this?" You always say "yes" even when you might not want to.

Take a minute to just stop and think "am I doing too much?"

If you live in constant stress to find time to fit in priorities, the answer is probably yes.

If you often have to plan things so that you can do five things at once, the answer is probably yes.

If you wake up before the sun comes out and go to bed shortly before that, the answer; most likely yes.

Stop. Breathe. Take a look at everything you have going on. Yes you are young and you might feel this incessant need to do it all, but trust me when I say this: you don't have to.

You can say no to that party if you really just want to sleep. You can say no to covering that shift if you have other things to do. You can say no to going to that game if you want to study for a test. You DON'T have to do it all.

Take it from a girl that knows. A girl that thought if she wasn't busy at every waking moment, she was wasting her life. A girl who always said yes to cover a shift because she felt guilty and felt she was letting someone down. I'm also the same girl that will say yes to going out with friends, no matter how tired she was because she didn't want to be a "loser."

Doing this, I always felt overwhelmed, stressed, too-thinly strung and just exhausted. Always virtually living out of my car because I never gave myself a chance to go home and refresh. Always compromising my health, sleep and my sanity.

Doing this to yourself may make you feel alive for the moment but in the end? You'll just feel tired and unmotivated because you pushed yourself too far.

Do yourself a favor. Take a second for yourself to just breathe and look at everything you're doing. Will your life end if you say no to something? Will a person stop being friends with you if you cancel plans? If you can cancel at least one thing or just eliminate one thing from your hectic schedule, you'll feel a sense of relief. You'll feel liberated that for once, you don't have to worry about that, whatever it may be.

You don't have to do it all. You just have to do all you can for yourself.

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