In life we are always faced with decisions. Whether we should work out or not. Do we REALLY need to wash our hair that day. Or whether we need shoes or rent money more. But certain times arise where we are faced with much harder decisions. The can range from an array of circumstances and options, but in all cases there is an inherent fight between what is right and what feels good.

This comes with a multitude of coping devices and strategies to make a final decision. It is imperative to be self aware in making these decisions. At the end of the day you have to live with the actions you make, more importantly, the consequences of those actions. If you find that what you want and what you need are polar opposites, listen to your needs. In the end what you want can only serve you temporarily until what you need comes knocking.

If you aren't someone who has a very strong sense of belief or religion, specifically Christianity, this may not serve you but these words mean a lot to me and guide me in the decisions I make, in Proverbs 19:21 it says, "Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but the LORD establishes his steps." If you feel that what is comforting or the normal for you begins to fade, if you feel that there are flaws in these things and room for disaster, stop and consider that maybe this is not what you need.

Despite what you may want or think is your plan, God may have something even greater planned. It is important to understand that what you need is not always the thing that is comfortable for you or what you feel will make you the happiest because in the end these things may be temporary and God's will can overpower these circumstances 100 percent of the time.

Even further, in Philippians 4:8 it is urged that man should keep in mind 'whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.' Despite religion or denomination this is something most can agree are good guidelines in the choices we make in life. If something you are choosing seems to conflict with these things, then the likelihood of this being a decision being one of health and positivity seem dismal. If this is the case then why are you choosing this?

The chances of this choice benefiting not only yourself but others around you and those involved are slim to none. The pain of losing or missing something you want is minor in comparison to the realization that you are neglecting what truly need. What you want can not promise the happiness that is brought on from realizing you have found what is best.