If you're like me, you have a mental list of your favorite go-to gifs. The guy in the panda costume trashing his desk and the otter that can't fit the cups together correctly are great ones. There's also the gif with Tyra Banks just blindly typing on a computer with a look of complete satisfaction on her face – who hasn't been that person?
But one of my favorite gifs has always been the one of Jonah Hill in a hotdog suit telling people to ask him about his wiener, which says more about my sense of humor than I would like it to. For those of you who are unfamiliar with that gif, here it is. (This is going somewhere, I promise.)
It's from a movie called "Accepted", which came out in 2006. The details aren't really important; just know that it's a good movie and you should watch it for two reasons. The first is, obviously, Jonah Hill is dressed as a giant hot dog.
But the second is for a quote that goes, "We don't need approval to tell us what [is real]. 'Cause there are so few truths in this world, that when you see one, you just know it."
For the longest time, I liked the way that quote sounded, but I had my doubts about the truth behind it, ironically. I previously wrote an article called "The Unknown In An Era Of Knowledge" that basically says it's alright to not know the answer.
And it is. But what if you're just not sure?
Part of the problem is that the truth can sometimes be a matter of perspective. Sometimes, what is real is clouded by what we think is real, and sometimes, we just think we are right when we are just plain wrong. If you're unsure of yourself and worried that you're in one of those situations, there are a few pieces of advice that I can offer you.
The first piece of advice is to never stop asking questions. If you're unsure of someone's intentions or feelings, talk to them about it. While you may be able to reach the right conclusion on your own, you'll never know if it's correct until you talk to them about it.
The second thing would be to take a step back and make sure that you aren't clouding your own judgment. If you have a negative opinion of someone, make sure that bias isn't affecting your outlook on the situation. Approach problems or the unknown from an objective perspective in order to try to understand the thoughts of everyone involved.
Thirdly, even if you think you are right, try to think of reasons why you may be wrong. Just take a few minutes and judge your own judgment. Is it fair? Does it make sense? Or is it a representation of what you want and not the whole truth?
When you reach the point where you feel that you're right, with or without using some of those pieces of advice, the hardest thing can be the next step. The truth is that I know the truth, and the truth is that I don't know what to do with it.
People chase after what is real or what the solution is that they never really think about what they are going to do with the information once they have it.
Now, I have come to realize that the quote is right. Once you're faced with the truth, you'll know it. I don't know how or when, but you will. But the problem has never been finding the truth.
We, as a species, enjoy the challenge of discovering things and trying to get to the bottom of a problem. What we struggle with is the next step. What is the right thing to do with the information? Do you choose to be selfish or selfless? Do you fight or accept defeat? Do you hold on or let go?
If you think about it, I can guarantee you that most of your problems aren't trying to figure out the truth; it's trying to determine what to do next.
You're here to find out how to find the truth, but what you should be asking is what to do with the truth. Because, while the truth either is or is not, what you do with it is your choice, there is no right answer. Your decisions will mend fences or burn bridges along the way, but either outcome could be the right or the wrong path.
While I can promise you that you'll know the truth when it hits you, I can assure you that you won't know what to do next. That's life. I would offer you advice on how to navigate that part of the process, but I think I am the poster child for bad decisions, so I'll let someone else write that article.
Lastly, as a reward for making it to the end of this article, here are the other good gifs.