There are a million and one reasons as to why things can happen the way they do. We can sit around all day with our herbal tea and wonder about the beginning of the universe and how it all works. Some people believe in fate, and others in free will. Some believe in a higher power, and others believe we are on our own.

So what does this mean when you think about the way the world works? Why do things happen the way they do? Do we really have a say in what happens to us? Why do bad things happen to good people?

In the past year, I was challenged. I experienced all kinds of loss. My life was drastically changing, and I had no idea how to stop any of it. I was stressed, confused, angry, and most of all: sad. The life I had built and come to love felt as if it was slipping through my fingers.

This up for debate and left to personal opinion, but I believe in a God that loves humanity unconditionally. And looking back on my life during the hard times, I realized that I hadn't been making time for my faith. It had been put on the back burner, and I hadn't been to church in months. And in the moment, I didn't think too much of it. But now, I look back and realize just how much my faith plays a part in my life. When it felt like I had nothing left, I found my way back to God and laid it all in His hands.

I have a hard time trusting others. It's hard to depend on other people because there's always the chance that you'll be let down. Showing vulnerability shows a raw side of your self that you may have a hard time revealing to others. But one thing I've learned is that being vulnerable does not equal weakness. And being vulnerable with God is one of the biggest blessings in this life. Giving your fears, your anxiety, your doubt and just trusting that God will take care of you is hard, impossible for some. But I began to see my life change when I began praying again. Perhaps it was a perspective change, or maybe it was a higher power working in my life, but I am no longer the girl I was a few months ago.

Sometimes things have to go wrong to show you what's meant to stay when you begin to reconstruct your life. Sometimes you have to be on the verge, or actually lose, the things and people you love to realize you may take for granted. Trusting that these things are happening in your life for a reason, that God is working in your life and through you, is the kind of perspective that helps me live my life the best way I can.

I had to let some people go. I had to look at my friendships and really evaluate how good of a friend these people are, and vice versa. I took a good, long, hard look at myself, and whether or not I liked who I saw in the mirror. I had let life and people harden my heart. And I finally decided that I needed to find a way to let God work through my life again.

Trusting in God's timing, that all my suffering was worth something, gave me the push I needed to take control of my life, and take control of the change happening. For so long, I felt out of control of what was happening, that I was aimlessly being pushed around by life.

There are some things in life that you can't fix, not with an apology, not with flowers or acts of kindness. Some things you just have to let live in the past, and accept it, and move on. To those struggling, feeling lost, I can promise you it gets better. I promise you that you will be happy again.

"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." - C.S. Lewis