Our lives are made up of moments strung together into complex patterns. If one moment changes even the slightest, even by a second, the entire course of your life can become different. It's pretty unreal to think about. How minutes, even seconds passing alter the course of our lives forever. So many questions run around our minds. Can the decision to take a different train to work put us in the path of a future employer, or put us in harms way? Everything that happens has timing to thank or blame for its completion.

When it comes to love, people boil it down to fate. If we are meant to be together, it will work out, right? Our paths will cross someday if we are truly made for each other, right? If you’re wondering why the majority of your potential love interests don’t work out, the reason is actually quite simple: it’s bad timing.

Do you ever sit and wonder what would have happened if one acceptance letter came before the other, and you went to a totally different college? Would you have gone to the school that first accepted you? Would you have waited for the letter you really wanted, or gotten swept up in the moment and accepted the first offer you got? It’s humbling and scary to think that everything we do can have a domino effect on the entire course of events in the world.

I find myself asking the same question. How is it possible for me to feel in control of my life? My answer is simple; make every moment of your life deliberate. Every single minute you live, make a conscious decision to pursue whatever route you are going. Every decision you make, consider the future, and the implications of your choice. Jump into the world knowing that your timing, good or bad, has the probability of influencing the rest of your life.

This used to scare me, this idea that if I was at the wrong place at the wrong time, something awful would happen, or if I wasn't at the right place at the right time, I would miss an incredible opportunity. So don't let the possibilities scare you, let them encourage you, because wherever you are, at any given time -- you are supposed to be there, so embrace it.