One thing I have learned over the year or so that I have been publishing work online is that people don’t like when they think something is written about them. People get super pissed off when a headline is a little too much like them and reflects the bad actions that they did to you. I’ve gotten a few “hey, who was that last article about?” texts, and I have gotten a few blocks on Facebook.
I refer to the great old statement that says don’t dish out what you can’t handle, quite a bit because it is undeniably true. If you screw someone over, or are just plain mean to someone you are stupid to not expect Karma to sneak up behind you, tap you on the shoulder and whisper “what’s good?”
Okay, I do apologize to those people who didn’t know I was writer at the time they screwed me over. I do apologize for the fact that I never told you that I have been writing ever since I can remember and that when you hurt my feelings I did spend all night ranting in my journal. Relationships and emotions have been my muse since my early days of writing, and I’m sorry if you didn’t know that (but then again, I definitely brought it up, so that’s your fault for never listening to me).
I do apologize for using your stupid actions to inspire an article. And I’m sorry if you saw that article and felt that burning sensation of embarrassment and shame for the shit you did. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, it’s not like you ever made anyone else feel that way…
If you continue to treat people like shit, you are going to have something written about you. If you have gotten something written about you, I will not apologize for that.
If you look at the screen and the words written about you reflect the way you have acted or treated people, you can’t possibly be mad, because how can you be mad at the truth? Just because you don’t have the courage to deal with your problems, doesn’t mean that I don’t. And the way I deal with it is through writing it all down.
And if I do choose to take those emotions and feelings to inspire a piece, do not flatter yourself that I’m not over you or that I’m in love with you or something crazy like that. No, it’s not my fault that your actions resulted in me feeling like shit about myself. I am a writer, this is what I do. So, I guess I can thank you here for inspiring some writing? But don’t think for one second that you control any aspect of my life.
A part of growing up is learning that being mean and immature is not the way to live. I’m almost 20 years old, and it seems that the people around me don’t seem to understand that. Please stop shit talking people. Please stop thinking you are better than everyone else in this world.
There's this quote by Anne Lamott that I think all writers should see if they second guess inspiration, or are too afraid to write something. It says, “You own everything that has happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they ought to have behaved better.”
So, since you blocked me on every form of social media possible because of my last article about your shitty actions, I hope someone kindly shows you this one. And I hope that one day, you learn to treat people with some respect so that the next writer you converse with doesn’t write something about you.