No one is transgender, intersex, a man or a woman. It's an expression, not something you are born with, and there are some opinions and experiences to consider before looking over this evaluation.

The term transgender is, according to GLAAD, “used to describe people whose gender identity differs from the sex the doctor marked on their birth certificate. Gender identity is a person's internal, personal sense of being a man or a woman (or someone outside of that gender binary). For transgender people, the sex they were assigned at birth and their own internal gender identity do not match.”

Those who identify as transgender can also be referred to as transsexual and genderqueer, depending on their own wishes, and a way to describe them in terms of name and gender pronouns is simply to listen for what others use or to ask for preferred pronouns.

There have been strong differences in views of trans people to come up in several ways including a wide opposition and acceptance to allowing transgender people to use the bathroom of their choice.

Debate.org has an argument for discussion up currently titled, “Should we support transgender equality in schools?” with 57% saying yes and 43% saying no.

The highest liked argument on the "yes" side described that the administration, teachers and parents ask students to be congenial however they cannot offer that in return. If they will continue to allow transgender students in that school then they need to respect their wishes and treat them correctly.

Whereas, the argument from the '"no" side outlined that they were separated in the first place -- gays, lesbians and transgender people do not have the right to marry, decide which gender they are or which bathroom to use. The gender they are is who they are and as God made them. They are homosexual and transgender through life's upsets. The argument also referenced a study that showed the above-mentioned people had four traits and history in common: early age introduction to pornography, traumatizing event before the age of 5, abuse and friends came out at an early age. In that, everyone was born straight so "they should use the pot straight."

Both arguments represent the different opinions on each side of the argument, however, there are two more sides and the third side is how trans people feel about it themselves.

In April, a man by the name of Charlie Comero spoke out against North Carolina’s bathroom law in an article by Mother Jones called, “I'm a Transgender Man in North Carolina. Here's What the Bathroom Law Means for Me.”

He writes,

“The day HB2 became law, I was there to testify in front of the Senate, and I had my speech prepared. I was sitting there listening to the senators talk about how important this bill is and how it would protect women and children. [...] It was absurd. I felt like I didn't exist, like I wasn't an equal human.”

And the fourth side represents how the students themselves feel. The New York Times asked students from around the nation to pitch in and express their opinions on this highly controversial issue. Perspectives varied however, there was representation from both sides.

One responded:

“1) I don’t think it is the federal government’s job to dictate what each school district does with its students. That is extreme government overreach, and it sets a bad precedent for the future. 2) I think that it is endangering females by opening the doors for any man who wants to enter locker rooms and restrooms where females are. I am not saying that transgender people will be the ones committing crimes; however, these laws and orders will allow any guy who wants to to enter these previously all-female spaces without being restricted by law. If schools want to provide a gender neutral restroom or space where transgender people can go, that is one thing, but eliminating any place where girls can go and have privacy from men is a very bad policy.”

Along with this, strong acceptance and opposition, not only in bathrooms but in general, is also a concern for some that can lead to different endings -- whether those are positive or negative vary.

Time published an article titled "What Trans Men See That Women Don't" to show when relationships go positive. It details how a friend asked his engaged transgender friend how he knew his girlfriend was the one. He responded with "I said ‘I’m trans, and you’re not gonna want me anyway,' he recalls, unable to keep the smile off his face. And she said ‘I’m in love with you, I don’t care about that.’"

In an article by Buzzfeed titled, "The Transgender Dating Dilemma," Raquel Willis outlines her experiences being a trans woman and dating. She had an ex, in the story she referred to him as "J", who was brought up with homophobic and transphobic views. There was ample attraction but he did not respect her as he should have. Willis gave three examples: making jokes that she used to be a man, negative judgment towards her activism and writing and using her birth name during arguments. She ended the relationship because it became too much.

Both stories highlight the ways dating can go for those who are transgender: unexpectedly good or an additional stressor. However, in both situations, coming out was always a stressor.

And then there are stories that end in tragedy, as was the case for 17-year-old Leelah Alcorn who committed suicide by walking in front of a tractor trailer coming down the highway.

Her suicide note was published through her Tumblr page, later deleted at her parents' request so it lives on from the various news sources that published part of it:

"Please don't be sad, it’s for the better. The life I would've lived isn't worth living in… because I'm transgender. [...] I immediately told my mom, and she reacted extremely negatively, telling me that it was a phase, that I would never truly be a girl, that God doesn't make mistakes, that I am wrong. [...] My death needs to mean something. My death needs to be counted in the number of transgender people who commit suicide this year. I want someone to look at that number… and fix it. Fix society. Please."

And on the flip side of the coin, Good Morning America posted a video of a transgender teen on their Facebook page June 16. The teen girl, Corey Maison, described her life through note cards with bullying, being in the dark:

"One of the kids told me I should kill myself because no one liked me anyway," and coming out into the light and being accepted for who she is, "[The principal] even let me use the girl's locker room and bathroom [...] I am SO HAPPY now :)."

All of these are ways people view trans people or, themselves, however, they are all missing the point: gender is not a whole-person label, my evaluation.

Gender is only a reproductive state, as defined by Oxford Dictionaries, “The state of being male or female (typically used with reference to social and cultural differences rather than biological ones).” And while it is stated, “sex tends to refer to biological differences, while gender refers to cultural or social ones,” gender needs to be used as a synonym with sex. There should not be cultural and societal standards laid out for whether or not a person was born with an XX or XY.

If we want to get technical, everyone starts out female until the Y chromosome kicks in. That's the reason why men have nipples but not developed breasts, the testosterone prohibits their formation.

The way people think and decided to express themselves is a wide, beautiful spectrum that should not be slammed into two, three, four or five distinct categories: like politics, there are liberals and conservatives, but a person’s range varies based on how far they are to either direction: hard left wing or moderate right.

In a given political party everyone has varying political opinions that can prove to be more similar than others in that realm and more often than not different compared to the other side.

One can be conservative on social issues and liberal on economic ones. It is completely based on how you think, but at the end of the day, there is one party you’d vote for one over the other based on their establishment and you can quite certainly change this view.

The same is with gender.

Transgender and non-transgender people break stereotypes by allowing men to identify as women and dress as they are stereotyped to dress and women to identify as men and do the same -- dress the stereotype provided by centuries of defining.

However, they make stereotypes by creating the illusion that to dress as the other gender is to be the other gender: Drag Queens and Drag Kings are an amazing example of still being one gender but liking to dress up as the stereotypical other, but this is not enough.

We are in a new age where those with an XX chromosome are less restricted on what they were told by tradition to wear, such as dresses and longer hair, and XY are as well, such as pants and shorter hair.

In the Good Morning America video, she liked dresses and heels but was made fun of for it. Her therapist taught her how to put on makeup, which she was grateful for, but because she was born male does not mean she is a girl.

She is someone who was born male and likes long hair, dresses and makeup. That’s it. Just because you go against what is traditional set out for your birth gender does not mean you are different.

Those who take hormones to be more like the other sex aren’t different. There are people who take hormones for height, hair, mood and many other things in their stride to be who they want to be. Those considered to be transgender are not different, they are human.

With bathrooms, going with your birth sex is most likely best. As someone who has attended a various amount of Softball tournaments, I realized if there is a line for the women’s bathroom and you have a game soon, and there is no one in the men’s bathroom, you go in the men’s. Even sometimes just because I did not want to wait so long.

I do not care which bathroom you use at all but with your birth gender being a factor, bathrooms usually accommodate to that sex’s biological needs.

For the men’s, you can pee standing up without having too much energy used trying to aim. I live with three guys, I know it can go terribly wrong. For women, you can buy and have a place to put your tampons, pads and liners when you are done - flushing them down the toilet is a very bad idea.

Gender and sex should not be subject to the definition of social and cultural variations but only by the way a person can contribute to the reproduction process.

The way a person decides to express themselves is a choice that is made willingly, not specified by two set categories. These categories only decided who you may be involved with on the making of a child, not if you want or are societally allowed to wear a tux and which category of gender you are labeled in.

While tradition may have found dresses to be appealing on XX people and suits on XY, that does not define today’s opinions. And while now we see those who decide to dress the stereotype of the other gender, that is not what gender truly is. We should not categorize humans socially in two, three, four or five set categories. It's a range, not a bracket, and you are not born with it.