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5 Huge Things You Can Only Learn After You've Come Out As Transgender

It's been over a year and I've learned a lot so far.

Cas Barbour

Feb 25, 2019

LGBTQ+ at Odyssey

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5 Huge Things You Can Only Learn After You've Come Out As Transgender

Coming out as a trans guy has been one of the coolest things I have ever done, but it has also been really scary and frustrating at times. In the past year and a half (ish) I've learned a lot about myself and life as a trans person.

1. I was the last one to know that I was trans

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When I came to my best friend all she did was ask me what I wanted for dinner because she genuinely didn't care, she already knew. Again, when I told my mom- all she said was "I know". Apparently, I was the last person to realize that I was trans.

2. Insurance companies are the literal WORST

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If you want to start HRT or try and have any type of surgery; good luck my friend. You will become BFF's with your insurance company (if you're lucky enough to have one). In the past month my mom and I have called my insurance company and doctors offices at least twenty times, and I still don't have an initial appointment to even start HRT.

3. You're going to want a therapist

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If you don't already have one, you're going to want a therapist. Your therapist is going to be your second biggest BFF (aside from the insurance company). Not only is it super great to have someone to talk to about your new life (it's not new, it's just new living it in front of people), but you have to have one to get your letters to start HRT or be considered for therapy.

4. You'll have a lot of questions & you'll have to answer a lot of questions

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Coming out means people have a lot of questions- you don't have to answer any of these questions if you don't want to. On top of the questions everyone has for you, you're going to have a lot of questions for yourself and everyone else too. Take time to find the right answers. What name you want, if you want to change your name, what pronouns to use, what doctors to use, and anything and everything in between.

5. Being out is the most freeing feeling in the world

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Take this time and enjoy it. Being in the closet is difficult and being out is so rewarding. The road ahead of you is long and it won't always be easy, there will still be hard times but you're on the way up now. Just take care of yourself.

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5 Huge Things You Can Only Learn After You've Come Out As Transgender

It's been over a year and I've learned a lot so far.

1. I was the last one to know that I was trans

2. Insurance companies are the literal WORST

3. You're going to want a therapist

4. You'll have a lot of questions & you'll have to answer a lot of questions

5. Being out is the most freeing feeling in the world

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10 ways to prepare for finals week—beginning with getting to the library.

Who knows where we would be without them.

1. Thank you for laughing at my jokes, even when they really aren’t funny.

2. Thank you for singing unbearably loud with me all the time.

3. Thank you for letting me vent to you for hours about anything and basically being my personal therapist.

4. Thank you for ordering pizza with me at 2 in the morning.

5. Thank you for all the movie days when we don’t feel like moving.

6. Thank you for being my workout buddy everyday.

7. Thank you for sharing your closets with me.

8. Thank you for taking naps with me at random hours during the day.

9. Thank you for cleaning our home with me when we absolutely need to.

10. Thank you for all the rides when it’s late and you don’t want me to walk home alone in the dark.

11. Thank you for studying with me in our kitchen when we didn't want to go the library.

12. Thank you for making dinner with me.

13. Thank you for helping with my hair, makeup and outfit every time we go out.

14. Thank you for taking countless ugly pictures with me.

15. Thank you for not judging me when I go too long without showering.

16. Thank you for making our apartment feel like a second home.

17. Thank you for being there through all of our boy troubles.

18. Thank you for giving me a hug when I feel homesick.

19. Thank you for getting excited with me when one of us gets a good grade on an exam.

20. Thank you for still being my friend and not judging me when I say or do dumb things.

21. Thank you for telling me what I should do when I am sick.

22. Thank you for dancing horribly with me everywhere we go.

23. Thank you for staying up super late with me when we aren’t tired or can’t sleep.

24. Thank you for being super weird with me.

25. Thank you for all the unforgettable college memories.

26. And most of all, thank you for being the best friends a girl could have.

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7. "I’m going to fail. I’m going to fail."

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9. "What grade do I have to get on the final to pass the class?"

10. "Oh, no, I have to do good."

11. "I shouldn’t have procrastinated all semester."

12. "I wanna go to bed."

13. "We did not learn this!"

14. "I should go get food."

15. "Why do we even have finals?"

16. "I don’t want to be at the library."

17. "Get off your phone."

18. "I can watch Netflix for like 20 minutes and then go back to studying."

19. "I shouldn’t have watched Netflix."

20. "You have to study now!"

The "Happiest Place on Earth" has a lot of characters with some pretty great advice.

Remember you’re the one who can fill the world with sunshine. — Snow White

The past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it. — Rafiki

You don't have time to be timid. You must be bold and daring. — Lumière

If watching is all you're gonna do, then you're gonna watch your life go by without ya. — Laverne

Sometimes the right path is not the easiest one. — Grandmother Willow

Always let your conscience be your guide. — Jiminy Cricket

To infinity and beyond. — Buzz Lightyear

Life is a journey to be experienced, not a problem to be solved. — Pooh

Let it go. — Elsa

If you can't say something nice, don't say nothin' at all. — Thumper

Today's special moments are tomorrow's memories. — Genie

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