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Traditional Dating Dead?

Social media is a big part of our lives, but is it affecting your dating relationship too?

Concetta Frawley

May 23, 2017

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Dating in today’s society is more difficult for people ages 18-25. Between classes and full-time jobs, there is little time for personal time, let alone time for someone else. Due to these erratic schedules many people in this age range have turned to social media for connection.

Social media has its place in society. I will agree that it is a great way to connect or stay connected with people around the country, and even around the globe. I also believe in social media’s uses for networking. However, I do see a stint in dating when it comes to social media.

Part of building a relationship is in the mystery of learning about someone else. According to Lauren Suval, social media takes away that mystery. You can be given a name and head straight to his/her Facebook, Twitter and often, even their Instagram profile. While reviewing the profile you may find a post that you disagree with or that offends you. Such a post may send up a red flag that this may not be the person you want to date.

Here’s the trouble with simply reviewing a profile page: this is not always an accurate reflection of who the person really is. The internet makes it easy to create a totally different identity and hide behind a facade. Who I appear to be online is not indicative of who I am if you meet me on the streets.

Kacey explains the effects of constant communication, as well the way courting has been affected. Through texting, Facebook Messenger and several other apps you and your significant other are always connected. Sounds great, right? But it’s also healthy to have some alone time.

Another problem posed by these apps is how it affects general communication. Written words can be interpreted many different ways. An innocent text or something that is meant to be lighthearted becomes the source of chaos and misunderstanding. It also eliminates any direct conflict in a relationship. If you don’t see the person and have a problem, just text it or send a message on Facebook. Ever been dumped through Messenger? Let me tell you, it sucks. Confrontation is hard, but knowing someone couldn’t face you is worse.

Is it possible that relationships will now be controlled by technology, like many other aspects of life? Is the only way to find a significant other through dating websites and apps? Or are there others willing still to take chances and explore the mystery of building a relationship?

Personally, I don't have the answers to these questions. I am single at 25. I am very traditional when it comes to dating. At this time I have found that social media, if it hasn't killed traditional dating completely, is making headway. I would hope that this is not the case and that there are others who can put down the phone, unless making a call, to build a relationship that would last.

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