Toxic in the basic sense of the word means poison. We all know that what is poisonous can make us sick if not be fatal. If we know this why do toxic people, places and substances remain in our lives?

To put it simply, some would rather have a toxic person in their life than to not have one at all. We don’t necessarily enjoy the pain that stems from this person, but we feel that enduring their absence would be worse. As human beings, we fear the unknown and we fear that what’s next could potentially be more problematic than our current situation.

What’s toxic doesn’t always kill us immediately but if it remains a prominent issue in our lives it will continue to try, and in some cases eventually succeed. So when a toxic person reveals themselves to you, believe it. Don’t allow those who are harmful to you remain in your life. That being said the road to redemption is not an easy one, but this is a guide to help you get your start.

1. Purge

Get rid of whatever or whomever it is in your life that is toxic. It’s not enough to partially cut them or it off. When in the process of purging, everything must go. Everything.

Purging is not easy, in fact, it can be an extremely painful process. It’s hard to let go of the people that you’re used to being around and inevitably it will be a huge adjustment. Nonetheless, you’re not ridding yourself of anyone who is doing you any good; use this truth to minimize the guilt you may experience.

2. Heal

Take some quiet time or a have period of isolation. It is absolutely necessary to replenish what has been depleted and to face your demons.

Healing must occur but it must be done right. If time is not taken to heal properly from what broke us, moving on doesn’t do much good.

Healing is a long and uncomfortable process, but it is extremely beneficial and healthy. Just because you have chosen to move on and be happy, this does not guarantee that every day will be a good one. You are still a human being and there will be times of healing that are ugly and that is 100% okay.

3. Get re-inspired

In times of toxicity, life can become extremely dull and bland quickly. We develop a routine of seeing or doing things we don’t love or enjoy. So, take some time to remember what you’re good at and try new things.

Be around those who bring positive energy and light into your life. If you can’t find those people immediately that’s okay, take more walks, create more art or try new foods — do whatever you need to do to find your motivation and inspiration once again.

4. Start the re-invention

You’ve purged, you’ve healed and you’ve found a new mission. Now it’s time to combine all of those things and begin living again, but this time do it on your own accord. If something or someone no longer makes you happy then quit it.

It is unrealistic to expect to be happy 100% of the time but it is so important that we make an effort. Life is short and none of us are guaranteed tomorrow. Regardless of what season of your life you’re in, try to make every day a good one.

Most importantly, recognize toxic situations and when you do, don’t stick around. No matter what the inconvenience of leaving may be, it is far less damaging than the contrary.