The other day I was scrolling through my Instagram feed when I came across this meme:
After reading it, I laughed out loud because this used to be me. In high school, I spent endless hours fantasizing about being an adult. In my naive, adolescent mind, I'd have my own apartment, outfits for every day of the year and an awesome job that paid lots of money. Well, like the meme says, "let's all laugh together" because I have none of these things! I still live at home with my parents, because New York is super expensive so I don't think I can rent a cardboard box for less than 1200 dollars a month. And, since I don't have an awesome job that pays lots of money, I definitely don't have an outfit for everyday of the year.
However, I do have is knowledge that one acquires through worldly experience. And while my twenties are far from what I expected these are a few things that I've learned so far.
1. Don't compare yourself to others.
I know, I know, easier said than done especially when you login to your Facebook page and see some of your old classmates getting married, renting apartments or vacationing in Dubai. But trust me, once you stop comparing your life to others it will eliminate a lot a lot of stress. Everyone's path is different, some people reach their destination more quickly than others, this doesn't mean that your life isn't going anywhere it simply means that your journey takes more time.
2. Make time for things you enjoy.
Again, I know, between work, school and all of life's other responsibilities you barely have enough time to sleep, much less do something you enjoy. However (I'm about to sound suuuuper cliche) it's important to stop and smell the roses. Life is much more than work, school etc., don't let it just pass you by.
3. Don't get too comfortable.
In other words, step outside of your comfort zone. Don't stick with something, job/relationship etc., just because it's safe and practical. If it doesn't make you happy, let it go!
4. Value good friends.
The older you get, the smaller your circle of friends becomes. So, if you have good friends, cherish them and treat them well. Besides, you'll need their company when your children put you in a nursing home.
5. Prioritize.
Or, dare I say, be responsible, especially where money is concerned. Open a savings account and build your credit score, you'll need it when you're older.
Although Hollywood tries to convince us otherwise, your twenties are probably the hardest stage of adulthood because you're at that awkward in between phase where you're old enough to do "adult" things but don't really feel like an adult. However, your twenties are also a time for self discovery so, don't beat yourself up if you don't have it all figured out.