Starting from when we are able to talk and up until we are old enough to die, we will always have those people who try too damn hard to fit in. Whether it is how they dress, how they act, what they eat, how they walk, what they drive, etc. fitting in is what their ultimate life goal is. We see them in grade school, high school, college, social groups, sports teams and so much more. Sure, fitting in can be a good thing, but when it dictates your life and daily tasks haven’t you had enough?

For those of you who need to fit in, are you insecure? Are you confused on who you are and what your role is in life? Do you ever take breaks? Sorry for all the questions but I really am just curious. Does it ever hurt? Does it make you depressed? In a way, I don’t feel bad for you because you do it to yourself. You don’t stop and look at life and the beauty of it because you are too busy trying to impress the people you are with. Don’t complain to us because you have full control of your life and your choices. Take a stand for yourself and realize that you can be a trend setter instead or a follower, but hey you probably will not listen.

So, while you are busy trying to fit in, you start to realize that all the good things you had started to go away. The true friends you had don’t hang out with you anymore. Your siblings start to see you change and wonder what has gotten into you. Your parents start to question your behavior and blame it on the kids you’ve recently started hanging out with, but hey this what you wanted in the end? You wanted to fit in and no matter the loss or the people you let down, you are going to get what you want.

The friends you had are hurt keep in mind, but do you care? Probably not because you have new friends now. You have the friends that you fit in with. But I must ask you, would those friends take you the hospital when you were hurt, would those friends pick you up while you were walking in the rain, would those friends buy you ice cream when you were feeling down? Well, that’s for you to answer.

To those who spend their lives trying to fit in, I hope one day that you do fit in. That you get your time in the lime light and feel good about it. But I also hope that one day you realize that it was not worth it. That letting go of everything truthful that you had is gone because you put yourself before them. If you catch yourself doing this stop and be who you are. But most importantly, stop and thank yourself for who you are and appreciate you because, in the end, you will be truly happy.