In life one thing is certain, and that is change. No matter how much we dread it, we know it's always right around the corner. For some, the idea of change is crippling and for others it's a lot like freedom. I see change as a medium between those two feelings, paralyzing but somehow freeing. As life changes, so do our relationships with everyone in our lives. Sometimes the people around you won't last the entirety of your life, and that's okay. We all lose people along the way, but we can still learn from them. Whether this friend was an ex, your old best friend, a longtime friend, or someone we lost too soon; there's something to say to each of them.
Thank you. Thank you for sticking around as long as you did, and for being a great friend. I appreciate everything you did for me and everything you taught me. By losing you, I learned a lot. That sometimes people aren't meant to stay, that after a breakup is over you can see where it started going wrong, or that people change. Just because you aren't in my life anymore doesn't mean that I hate you or don't want to see you again, I have no hard feelings. Know that I am thankful for our memories and everything we experienced together. I wouldn't trade it for the world.
I'm sorry. I feel sorry for a lot of things. That we lost touch when we left for school, that I stopped asking about your plans and dreams, that we both changed. I could go on, but in actuality being sorry taught me how to live better and to be a better person. I wish we could change what happened, but it was inevitable. People are wired to change, and as we do, we sometimes need to let go of the people we thought we were.
I miss you. Even if we don't talk or acknowledge each other anymore, I'm still rooting for you. I hope things are going great and I hope that the people in your life treat you well. Just because we aren't friends anymore doesn't mean I wish you everything you want in life.
Sometimes in life we have an impossible time handling change. When some of our friends walked out of our lives it took a while to grasp it and accept it. As time goes by, people evolve. We all have beliefs and sometimes as we learn more about the world, we adapt these beliefs. While people are constantly becoming a different version of themselves, sometimes we can't keep up.
Think of your life right now. It can either be going well with relationships that thrive, or you can sense that change is coming. Embrace that change as a chance for life to be different and possibly better. Do this knowing that you can still look back and smile.
Life and people will change, but that doesn't mean that you can't enjoy every second of the present and of the past.
