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To The Ones Who Always Feel Left Out

For those who feel as if they're the outcasts in their friend group and like they don't belong.

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To The Ones Who Always Feel Left Out

To the one who always feels left out,

It seems as if there's always that one friend in the friend group who gets left out.

The one who isn't invited to things, the one who finds out everyone hung out without them via social media, and the one where if there's five people and four seats in the car, they're the fifth person. Sometimes you just feel as if no one likes you, or that no one cares. That's not true at all. Just because your friends don't value your friendship the same way you do doesn't mean they don't care.

People care and value you.

Just because some friend doesn't see the value you have doesn't mean no one cares. There are people out there who care and value you and what you can bring to a friendship. You just need to go out and find them. Stop worrying about those friends that don't give you the time of day. One day you'll find your people, and they will give you the love and appreciation you deserve. It hurts when you give so much but get so little in return. If you keep waiting and putting yourself out there, you'll find those people that give you what you give them.

As we get older and grow up, we start to realize what we want and who we want to be around.

If someone is creating negativity in your life, let them go. If someone isn't giving you the friendship you deserve, let them go. If you wait long enough, you'll find those that love and value the special person that you are. It seems that when we grow up we're constantly switching friend groups and jumping around. In elementary school we're best friends with “Ms. Popular", and then in middle school we're friends with someone completely opposite. Same thing goes in high school and college. As we discover ourselves, we discover who we want to be, and who we want to be with. Don't worry about being the friend that's always left out, or who isn't getting the appreciation they deserve. Everything happens for a reason.

Everyone comes and goes into your life for a reason. We may never know why people come and go.

But every day, every moment shapes us into the person that we are. Those painful moments make us stronger, and make us realize what we want in life. They make us realize what we deserve. Don't sweat those little things. Just take a step back and think about what you deserve.

You are so valuable and special.

Don't let friends who don't appreciate you rain on your parade, or put you down. Learn to let go, and to go out and spread your wings to find the people that will treat you the way you deserve. Sometimes, we stay with those that hurt us a little too long because we're afraid to let go.

We're afraid that we'll forever be lonely.

That's not the case. If you keep searching you'll find those people that will make you feel special and valued. Don't sweat the little things. Just let go and keep on going. Make those who treat you bad realize how great of a friend they have. Don't be someone you're not, just to fit in.

Speak up and do what's best for you.

One day you won't be left out. You'll be ok, and remember that just because those friends don't want to be with you, or they treat you bad," doesn't mean someone else doesn't long for your presence. You'll find your people, that's a promise.

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