To the one who is always the second choice,

You know you are the second choice when you are always having to be the one to make the plans. It's not that no one wants to hang out with you, just that they have to invite their first choices before you. You understand, right? I mean you're already used to is so what's a other time going to hurt, right? Well if you are like me, it hurts way more than most people would think. You also know you are the second choice when you do try to make plans and your friends already have plans with other friends. They tell you that you can come along but once again that's not their first choice, is it?

What about when you are finally up for that new position? You are super qualified, you have everything they are looking for, but you are......you. Like basically that would be perfect if it was anyone but you, right? I mean that is why they got it instead of you, except for the fact that they were not as qualified than you. But it's fine, right? I mean you're already used to it. So what's another time going to hurt?

Oooh here's a good one. I know this is always what we look forward to. You know that cute guy you see across the room. You keep making eye contact and finally you see him walking towards you. You are so excited because you have been wanting him to all night. That is until he says, "Hey, so umm who's your friend?" That is something we all love to hear. Another first choice person getting another first choice thing. Or better yet when you have been talking to your friend about a guy and how you like him so much and you think he is going to ask you out. Then you introduce them and you turn into the second choice. Before you know it, you are his second choice and hers. But it's a win-win, right? Now you don't have to talk to either of them. Ever again. But that's okay, since you were never a first choice anyway.

It really hurts though, doesn't it? As a second choice, we never feel good enough. We never seem to understand our worth because of everyone else. But do not worry, one day you will find someone who treats you like their first and only choice. Yes, it may take a lot of time, but it will happen. That person will make you feel as if you have never been the second choice and will make sure you never feel that way again. This person will come to you at the most unexpected time, but it will be the time you need them the most. From one second choice to another, good luck and I wish you the best. One day, if you don't know already, you will know your worth. You will feel appreciated. You will feel loved. And most importantly, you will be a first choice.