To the new girl in my old guy’s life,

First of all, I know you don’t know me – he probably hasn’t spoke of me, he’s never been one to talk about his past or his feelings. But I know you. I know you from the pictures you post with him, the snapchats I see every weekend of you both doing something adventurous, amazing and something I never did with him - he never snapped pictures of me like he does with you. I know you from the silence that has become my relationship with him.

Honestly, you look like a really nice girl. Obviously my friends say you look like a bitch and you’re not as pretty as me, but that’s their job – and though at times it makes me feel better to think that, I know it’s not true.

So if I had the chance to speak to you, in 500 characters or less, I would tell you this: Please make him happy.

Bake him lemon bars because, even though we all know they don’t taste very good, they’re his favorite. Drive down back roads late at night and find a song that he can sing along to and forget about everything else going on in his life for those few minutes. Give him a head scratch or a back rub, even if you’re tired, because it will make him feel cared for, and, although he doesn’t admit to wanting that, I know he does. Watch the baseball game instead of your chick flick, even though he’s sweet enough to just check the score on his phone between Dakota Johnson’s dramatic gasps. Beyond the incredible muscles, and soft, insanely sexy brown hair, the man you’re with is funny, charming, sensitive, caring, sweet and has the greatest heart of any guy I know.

When a guy chooses not to be with you, you go through a period where you think he is an asshole and your friends tell you that you can do so much better. But the truth is, with him, he’s the greatest guy in the world; I just wasn’t the one for him.

I’m sure I’ll find my person in time, every day I think about him just a little bit less, but I can only hope they are half the man that he is. I would have done anything to make him happy, and recently I’ve realized that what makes him happy is you. So please don’t take for granted the fact that your laugh makes him smile, or that he chooses to spend the few hours he has off work with you. You have somehow gotten the guy I never could, and if I were you I’d never let him go.

So although it hurts to see him smile with you, I’d rather him really smile with you than fake a smile with me. So here I am, coming up on the 500^th word that you may or may not even know is for you, but he’ll know it’s for him. Be happy, stay safe, and know that I love you for all the amazing reasons that I’m sure your new girl does too.

Love always,
Ali