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To The Guys Who Want A Chance

"Getting a lot of girls isn't something to be proud of. Keeping one is"

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To The Guys Who Want A Chance
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Remember back in the 1950s when a guy would ask a girl to get dinner and all was fine and dandy? Yeah, me either; wasn't born then. While time has passed and some experiences have lived and died, so has the idea "proper dating". What is "proper dating"? While I am not entirely sure, I know that today's "sliding into your dm's" certainly doesn't beat actually having a face to face conversation.

I may have never been in a relationship, but I know how I would like to be treated, how I would like my friends to be treated, and how I would like my hypothetical daughter to be treated.

So guys, if you're looking for a girl who's going to fall for your cheap and thoughtless messages sent via Twitter, then you should stop reading here. If you're looking for a way to actually get a girl that will stand by your side for a long time, then this post is for you.

Don't disrespect/belittle women.

Plot Twist: women have opinions and ambitions too. Now more than ever, women are making remarkable strides in this world. We want to be our own individuals, break the mold, and take a stand for ourselves. So if you look down on a girl for her ambitions and beliefs, chances are she won't want to be with you. If you belittle her and make her feel like she isn't worth it, she most likely won't want to be with you.

Make an effort to have a real conversation.

Asking a girl "what's up?" followed by "are you single?" is not a great conversation starter, especially if you don't know her. Ask her to grab coffee or just go for a walk. Communication in person can lead to all kinds of conversations, reveal certain qualities about that person, and can show how you both respond and react to each other. It's easy to hide behind a phone and act like you care so much, but if things get that serious, texting your future wife "lol I do" aren't going to be the most ideal and genuine vows.

Respect the people she loves.

Without a doubt, not everyone gets along with the people they meet. But if you disrespect the people she loves, there's a good chance you may not last long with her. There is a fine line of airing your grievances about someone and just being flat out rude. We're not asking you to get along with every person we love, but we ask that you respect the relationship we have with them.

Admit your faults.

We're all human, we have faults, flaws, and stumble and fall every now and then. While that is easy for someone like me to admit, I have found at times that guys like to pinpoint the blame on girls. Now I know all guys don't behave this way, but there definitely are those that do. So even if you make a mistake that she had nothing to do with, don't tell her "Well, you made me do it." or "It's your fault." Accept what you did, acknowledge it, and move on.

Love her when it seems impossible.

Sometimes women lose their minds, themselves, and we break. We could be the most beautiful person in the world to you, but sometimes we can't grasp that. We battle our demons and ourselves constantly. While we may be stubborn during these moments, it is important for you to be there to support her if you really love her. When you love someone, you love all of them, which means you have to take the good and the bad. So although it may feel like things will never look up, but you love them more than anything, fight for it. If it's meant to be, God will make things work.

I'm not saying if you follow all of these tips that you will get a girl without no problem, but they sure are a good guideline and start. No matter how you get a girl, make sure you love and treasure her.

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