If you have clicked on this article, then you probably relate to this title. If so, this is for you.

Dear you,

You don't ever feel like you are enough, do you?

You wake up, everyday, and face the world as you see fit. If you're like me, you have college classes to attend and work to do constantly. If you are not like me, you have your own life you tend to. Whatever it is you do with your time, and whatever you put your mind and heart into, you never feel good enough doing it.

For some unknown reason you hold yourself on such a high pedestal that even you, the one who created it, has trouble reaching it some days. Whether it has to do with your grades, your social life, your work, or anything in between.

When it comes to school, you are so hard on yourself. You push yourself to the point of exhaustion daily, striving to be the best student in the class. You work tremendously hard to maintain a 4.0, which is praised by everyone because it is, in fact, a very grand accomplishment. But even then, with the praise and glory, you are constantly feeling like you can always, or should always, be better than you are. You get an 85 on a paper and feel like it should have been a 95. You get a 95 the next time and feel like it should have been a 100.

The thoughts never stop.

When it comes to friendships, you have always felt like the oddball in any group you have tried to join. You feel left out, and to be honest, you consistently feel as if you have no friends. At the end of the day, or on the weekends when you do not have plans like other people your age, you begin to attribute it to the idea that you are not good enough. You are not a good enough friend, a fun enough person or a great enough best friend to keep around. You see your friends on Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, all going out and having a good time and wonder where your invite was. You introduce two people and they become friends and actually end up forgetting about you.

The thoughts never stop,

When it comes to work, you compare yourself to all your coworkers. Yeah, most people say, "It's just a job", but because you strive to be perfect at everything, it isn't "Just a job" to you. Even if its just a retail job, serving job, or desk job, you want to be the best worker you can. You get high praise, and sometimes even feel good about your work ethic, but no matter who says what, you always feel you should be doing better. You feel like it's your fault that customer yelled at you, or that it's your fault one of your coworkers do not like you.

The thoughts never stop.

All of these things build up, constantly inside of you. "I'm not good enough, there's something wrong with me, I need to change this this and this about me" are thoughts that are on a continuous loop in your mind.

The worst part about ALL of this is that when you do try and speak to your "friends" about it, most of them say you are seeking pity or just say "there's nothing wrong with you".

Which, you probably know by now, does not help you.

This, my friend, is why you have to start within. Nobody can explain just how "good enough" you are unless you believe it inside of you.

You have to realize that while you got an 85 on a big exam, in the long haul, a future employer will not look back at your freshman year English grades and say, "Oh, you got an 85 on this test, no way you are hired." In life, you win some and you lose some. It is both mentally and physically impossible to make a 100 on EVERY SINGLE exam you take. It simply is just not going to happen.

But that does not make you any less of a person or student.

You have to realize that the people who have made you feel like an outcast, especially after your expression of your feelings, are not worth your peace of mind. Most people our age have similar mindsets, and you simply do not have the same. You think different than most of your peers, and it drastically makes you feel outcasted. Different. Alone. Upset. Self-blaming. But you have to realize that just because you lose friends does not mean other friends will not come up in your life to replace them. I have been there, GOD have I been there. More times than I can count. I have been the outcast all my life, never feeling like I belong anywhere. You, too, may feel this way.

But you have to realize that these bad experiences in friendships do not make you any less of a friend that someone would love to have in their life.

You have to realize that, especially in customer service, you WILL and I repeat, WILL have customers who will complain on you or yell at you, no matter how hard of a worker you feel you are. You can be one of the sweetest people and there will be that one customer who just. cannot. stand. you. And you have to accept this, and move on. Also, you have to realize not every coworker will be your best friend, at least not early on in our lives. That retail/server job you have right now will not be part of your life forever, and neither will those coworkers.

So you definitely should not take it to heart if you get yelled at by a customer or that you are not every single one of your coworkers favorite person.

You only have one life. Do you truly want to spend it striving to be this "ideal" girl that usually results in you never feeling good enough? Do you really want to waste the days away comparing yourself to every person you meet?

I struggle with this too, so I am not making those statements as judgments, but more for the notion that when you sit down and really think about it, all these things are not worth it.

That 85 is not worth you imposing stress on yourself to cram even harder for the next test.

That crappy friend is not worth you questioning who you are, and feeling like there is something wrong with you.

That customer/coworker is not worth your peace of mind at the job that you care about doing your best at.

But most of all, that little voice in your head, that thought process that is on a continuous loop, is for damn sure not worth listening to.

Because you are enough, you are so enough that some people cannot handle you.

And once you believe you are enough, there is not anyone, or thing, that can tell you that you aren't.

With love and high hopes,

Someone who thinks you are more than enough.