To The Girl Who Is Trying To Fix Him

You can't fix someone who doesn't want to be fixed.

Mar 13, 2017

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Mondein

When we hear about heartbreak we automatically think about some jerk of a guy breaking some poor girls heart, but that’s not always the case. When a girl’s heart breaks she may cry about it for a little while, eat some ice cream, and then she’s over it. When a guy’s heart breaks, it’s about ten times worse. I’ve said so many times before that I always go for the broken ones. I am the type of person who thinks she can “fix” him. I want to do everything in my power to put those pieces back together, which always just ends up with two broken hearts instead of a fixed one.

So to the one who thinks she has to fix them all,

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STOP.

I have been there. Dating a broken hearted guy, thinking if I can just do everything right it would heal his heart and he would fall in love with me and we’d be happy together.

This scenario NEVER plays out like that.

You are literally just breaking your own heart.

You need to learn that no matter how much effort you put into it, no matter what you do for him, how much you care and love him, you will never be able to fix his broken heart.

And do not for one second think that there is anything wrong with you, because sweetheart there isn’t. It is all on him. He has to be willing to fix himself before it will ever work out with anyone, and if he’s not ready you can’t force it.

I know it hurts, but you need to remember what you’re worth. And it is so much more than waiting around trying to fix a guy who does not want to be fixed.

Your precious soul deserves to be with someone who is ready for all the love and kindness you are capable of giving. You deserve someone who can give you everything you want and more, someone you don’t have to “fix” because his heart is whole and ready to love you.

So stop worrying about trying to fix everyone else and just pick up the pieces of your own heart, put it back together, and wait for the one who is ready for all the love you’re giving to all the wrong people.

It’s tough, but I promise it is so worth it.

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College athletes, it's time we talk about sports hygiene.

1. It's just the basics.

2. Just an easy tip.

3. As a college student, I get it.

4. Time to be real.

5. Shower right after.

6. Another get real moment.

7. Take home your clothes.

8. Be nice!

9. Disinfect!

10. Just keep up with yourself.

What would I do without my mom?

1. “Good luck today! I believe in you and always will.”

2. “Everything will be OK.”

3. “Do you want to come home for the weekend?”

4. “Don’t stress! Stress causes pimples and we don’t want that!”

5. “Look out for a care package coming in the mail.”

6. “You are so bright; I know you can get through this."

7. “Take a break and relax for a little, you’ve been working so hard.”

8. “Go out with your friends, have some fun. Use your card, I will refill it.”

9. “Take a deep breath.”

10. “Everything will work out the way it's supposed to.”

11. "I love you."

She's got your back with everything that college throws at you.

1. Doctor.

2. Nutritionist.

3. Personal trainer.

4. Tutor.

5. Stylist.

6. Babysitter.

7. Therapist.

Just some relatable college student advice! Yes, you aren’t the only one!

1. Don’t buy Textbooks the first week of class.

2. Ratemyprofessor.com! PLEASE use it!

3. Don’t wear your lanyard or ID around your neck, it makes it obvious for everyone to know you’re a freshman.

4. Always bring a charger or headphones wherever you go.

5. Don’t miss out on the free food on campus.

6. You don’t always need to dress up…Trust Me!

7. Get More Involved!

8. Don’t feel pressured to hook-up with anyone.

9. The Freshman 15 is REAL! Don’t brush it off!

10. It’s OK to say NO!

11. Drinking / Partying doesn’t equal popularity.

12. Try to spend less time in your dorm.

13. It’s OK to change your major!

14. Always take an Uber or Lyft!

15. Never go to a party alone!

16. Start your resume early.

17. Keep your door open when in your room.

18. Get to know your professors.

19. You don’t really need an unlimited meal plan.

20. Procrastinate = LATE!

21. If you need to…sleep!

22. It’s also OK to say ‘no’ to going out all the time!

23. Take advantage of the free stuff on campus!

24. Not everyone in college drinks.

25. Community bathrooms aren’t THAT bad.

26. Please get along with your roommate.

27. Spotify/Apple Music Playlists!

28. Please clean your room frequently!

29. Please Go to Class….You’re paying for it!

30. Do the extra credit!

31. DON’T Pick 8 am Classes!

32. Use the resources on campus.

33. Eat at Dining Halls to save meals or even cook your own food.

34. Make sure to pick your classes on time!

35. Make every day count! College goes by QUICK!

It's partly by choice.

1. I'm shy.

2. I'm picky.

3. Different interests

4. Differing maturity levels

5. I don't want to waste my time.

6. Small selection

7. God hasn't shown me "the one" yet.

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