It's Ok To Wait To Start Dating Again | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post

To The Girl That's Unsure When To Start Dating Again

Take it at your own pace.

58
To The Girl That's Unsure When To Start Dating Again
Lauren Spiezia

No matter how long it has been since your breakup, you're probably wondering if and when you'll feel prepared to get back out there and meet new people. For some people, going out and taking your mind off of your ex is one way to heal while for others, a few nights in bed binging rom-coms and snacks work wonders.

You probably learned a few things from your recent relationship and hope that the next one is better than your last. Maybe you're more confident in what you want or don't want from your partner or maybe you're more confident in standing up for yourself. When deciding what your next step in your romantic life will be, remember one important thing:

There is no magic formula that tells you how long to wait until you start dating again.

There are many factors that can influence your decision, including the length of your last relationship and why and how you broke up. Your friends and family may have many opinions on the subject, but your happiness and comfort should always be in your best interest, even if they end up disagreeing with you on the length of time you end up waiting.

Listening to them is always helpful, especially if they are just trying to look out of you, but do not let anyone dictate your romantic life. No matter what, no one knows when you'll feel ready better than you do. If you wait two days or two years before seeing someone new after a breakup, that is entirely your own decision.

Now don't get me wrong, it can be very easy to misjudge how you're feeling, go out with someone, and realize you actually aren't at that stage yet. Even if that does happen, you can learn from that experience to better gauge how you're feeling about dating in the future.

All things in life work out exactly how they are meant to, even if that means going on 500 bad dates before finding someone you click with.

When the time comes and you're getting ready for your first date since the breakup, you may be overcome with emotions; anxiety about how it'll go, fear of being judged by others, and maybe some lingering thoughts about your ex. No matter what's going on inside your head at this moment, everything will be okay.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Christmas tree
Librarian Lavender

It's the most wonderful time of the year! Christmas is one of my personal favorite holidays because of the Christmas traditions my family upholds generation after generation. After talking to a few of my friends at college, I realized that a lot of them don't really have "Christmas traditions" in their family, and I want to help change that. Here's a list of Christmas traditions that my family does, and anyone can incorporate into their family as well!

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

The 5 Phases Of Finals

May the odds be ever in your favor.

1341
Does anybody know how to study
Gurl.com

It’s here; that time of year when college students turn into preschoolers again. We cry for our mothers, eat everything in sight, and whine when we don’t get our way. It’s finals, the dreaded time of the semester when we all realize we should have been paying attention in class instead of literally doing anything else but that. Everyone has to take them, and yes, unfortunately, they are inevitable. But just because they are here and inevitable does not mean they’re peaches and cream and full of rainbows. Surviving them is a must, and the following five phases are a reality for all majors from business to art, nursing to history.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

How To Prepare For The Library: Finals Edition

10 ways to prepare for finals week—beginning with getting to the library.

2753
How To Prepare For The Library: Finals Edition
Photo by Clay Banks on Unsplash

It’s that time of year again when college students live at the library all week, cramming for tests that they should have started studying for last month. Preparing to spend all day at the library takes much consideration and planning. Use these tips to help get you through the week while spending an excessive amount of time in a building that no one wants to be in.

Keep Reading...Show less
girl roommates
StableDiffusion

Where do we begin when we start talking about our roommates? You practically spend every moment with them, they become your second family and they deal with you at your best and at your absolute worst. They are there to make you laugh just a little harder, cry a little less and make each day a little better. We often forget to thank them for the little things that they do to make college even a tiny bit easier and more fun. This list of 26 things are what you should thank your roommates for right this minute and every day that you live with them.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

20 Thoughts While Studying For Finals

I may or may not be stressing right now.

2811
Thoughts While Studying For Finals
StableDiffusion


That time of the semester has arrived once again, finals. The worst week ever. Who thought it was a good idea for all your classes to have exams all in the same week? Definitely not me. Here's 20 thoughts you may have studying for finals.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments