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To The Girl He Had Before Me

So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. Colossians 3:12-13

Charlie Katherine Berckman
Jun 13, 2016
Abraham Baldwin Agricultural College
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Dear Girl He Had Before Me,

I don't know much about you except for your name. I've seen a few pictures of the two of you together. You should know I don't talk badly of you. Actually, I think you are very pretty, and I know he thought the same. I'm not the kind of girl who finds threat in an ex because all of that played out before me.

I do not have bitter feelings towards you, and I apologize if for any reason you have bitter feelings towards me. You are not being forgotten. You were a part of his life, even if it was for a short amount of time. I'm sure he has good memories of y'all together. I'm not trying to take those away from either of you. At one time, you were both happy, and that in itself makes me smile. He deserves to be happy, and you do too. I'm not so sure how everything fell apart, but I'm sorry that it did. Breakups are never an easy thing to go through.

Please have enough confidence and respect for yourself to not compare me and you. I know I am guilty of that, sometimes, and it isn't always the best feeling. Know you are good enough. I hope the next guy you date works out. I hope he treats you with the absolute upmost respect. I hope he makes you happier than you ever thought possible, and strengthens your walk with God, because you deserve good things. I hope you are mature enough to speak kindly of your ex. He really is an amazing guy (which I'm sure you experienced first hand). Understand that the same kind words have, and will be, spoken of you from him and me.

The main thing I wanted to get across with this letter is that I don't want us to dislike each other just because we have both fallen for the same guy. I know you had him first, and I'm glad you did, because I know y'all's relationship taught him many things. You helped mold him into the person he is today, and I want to thank you for that. I hope you carry nothing but positive thoughts away from y'all's past.

I will be praying for you. I pray that you will have a life full of happiness, adventures, success, and love. I pray you will be surrounded by amazing family and friends, and I pray that you won't let heartbreak get you down, but make you stronger, and even more determined to find your one.

I wish you all the best,
The girl he has now.

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