A true friendship is not something that many people understand. They say that friendships should be easy, it should just come naturally. That statement is completely FALSE. If you have a friend, let us call them a “best friend," there is no way that they don’t annoy you even a little bit. There is absolutely no way you don’t disagree with some of the things they say and there is absolutely no way you can see somebody every day and not fight with them. If none of those scenarios are true to you, please send me to the place you got your emotional stamina from. Being 21, I have dealt with and encountered a lot of people. I should know from experience that you can’t get along with everyone who decides to walk into your life.
Now, moving forward to the title of this article and the reason you chose to read it. "To the friend I can't be friends with anymore." Going back to the idea of friendships being easy, friendships take WORK.
Just like Rihanna says, if you want a friendship to work- get ready to WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK. It’s really hard but what makes it easy is the fact that you don’t want to lose that person.
To the friend I couldn’t be friends with anymore, I want you to know that I tried. I know I did because it took the amount of years that we were friends for me to forgive you for all of your passive aggressive comments and hurtful actions. It sucks because I feel like I was blinded. I was blinded by the thought of your immature state, thinking that one day you would change. But you didn’t. I blame myself for forgiving you each time, just to have you hurt me again. I was blinded by your that same statement; “I was just upset, I won’t say that again.” I blame myself for wanting to see the good in you when all everyone told me was that there was none. Even though your emotional levels aren’t as high as mine, I feel sorry for you. I feel sorry that you spend all of your time talking badly about others and hurting other people, when what you could be doing is bettering yourself and finding good people to surround yourself with. I hope you find a friend who makes you want to live a better life, and make others around you feel good about themselves. I truly hope you don’t do to others what you had done to me.
To end this on a positive note, I want to dedicate this article to my best friend. I want to thank you for lifting me up when I’m down and giving me the strength to get out of bed, when all I want to do is hide myself from the world. Even though we fight like crazy, and we have multiple disagreements, I still fight for this friendship every single day, because I couldn’t imagine losing you.
This one goes out to the real friends out there.
