To The Boy I Can't Date | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post
Relationships

To The Boy I Can't Date

When in college, your future comes first. Boys don't.

106
To The Boy I Can't Date
unsplash.com

To The Boy I Can't Date,

Yes, I know I wrote an article about being single in college, but let's be real, sometimes you crush on a boy. This boy makes you happy and makes you smile. I see you every day but we remain friends.

Adulting is hard and that's what I've realized. I have goals for myself. Goals that will make me happy and keep me happy. Work is a priority, and I really want to do something that I love.

One thing I have come to understand is I have to put myself first. I need to learn to say no and do what makes you happiest. I study hard because I have an end goal. One of my goals is to live on my own, support myself and be happy with my job. I want to enjoy doing work every day. There is a saying that Monday's aren't bad, it's your life or situation that you don't like. So don't hate on Mondays, change something, make them positive.

That aside, I have the end goal of marriage. I hope to meet my future husband here at college but I have no idea who it is. I want him to love Jesus, love me and be trustworthy. I want my family to like them and have someone who is proud of my work.

But, most of all, I want to end up somewhere where we are both happy. That is what I have grown to know. I want to date someone who doesn't have completely opposite goals as me. I want us to want to live in similar places and to have an idea of the same future. I know it's selfish to think that I want to end up where I'm happy, but that's me putting myself first. If you want to end up in a place I could not picture myself living, there is no point in crushing on you let alone date you.

But since I like you, I want you to be happy. I don't want to be the person that drags you down from your dreams. You deserve so much more than that. You should do what you love with someone who supports you. There have been boys that I've liked but I know that dating is just not a possibility. So in the end, I've had to put my feeling aside and just remained friends. It stinks but it's an adult thing to do. It's crazy that now that I'm older I have to think about stuff like this. When I was younger I could crush on whoever and it didn't matter. Now that I'm half way through college, the future is a huge thing.

To all you girls out there who are crushing on a boy, be careful. I want all of you to think about your future AND his.

Keep your head up, there is a guy out there for you. Just give it time and have patience. You want someone that will support you and make you happy. God will put just the right person in your life.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
friends
Photo by Elizeu Dias on Unsplash

If I have learned one thing in my lifetime, it is that friends are a privilege. No one is required to give you their company and yet there is some sort of shared connection that keeps you together. And from that friendship, you may even find yourself lucky enough to have a few more friends, thus forming a group. Here are just a few signs that prove your current friend group is the ultimate friend group.

Keep Reading...Show less
ross and monica
FanPop

When it comes to television, there’s very few sets of on-screen siblings that a lot of us can relate to. Only those who have grown up with siblings knows what it feels like to fight, prank, and love a sibling. Ross and Monica Geller were definitely overbearing and overshared some things through the series of "Friends," but they captured perfectly what real siblings feel in real life. Some of their antics were funny, some were a little weird but all of them are completely relatable to brothers and sisters everywhere.

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

11 Types Of Sorority Girls

Who really makes up your chapter...

2213
Sorority Girls
Owl Eyes Magazine

College is a great place to meet people, especially through Greek life. If you look closely at sororities, you'll quickly see there are many different types of girls you will meet.

1. The Legacy.

Her sister was a member, her mom was a member, all of her aunts were members, and her grandma was a member. She has been waiting her whole life to wear these letters and cried hysterically on bid day. Although she can act entitled at times, you can bet she is one of the most enthusiastic sisters.

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

10 Reasons Why Life Is Better In The Summertime

Winter blues got you down? Summer is just around the corner!

1874
coconut tree near shore within mountain range
Photo by Elizeu Dias on Unsplash

Every kid in college and/or high school dreams of summer the moment they walk through the door on the first day back in September. It becomes harder and harder to focus in classes and while doing assignments as the days get closer. The winter has been lagging, the days are short and dark, and no one is quite themselves due to lack of energy and sunlight. Let's face it: life is ten times better in the summertime.

Keep Reading...Show less
Relationships

10 Things That Describe You and Your College Friends

The craziest, funniest, and most unforgettable college memories are impossible to create without an amazing group of friends.

1473
College Friends
Marina Lombardi

1. You'll never run out of clothes when you have at least four closets to choose from.

2. You embrace and encourage each other’s horrible, yet remarkable dance moves.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments