One of the things no one really tells you during high school is that sometimes you're only really friends with someone because you see them five days a week. You could imagine my shock when I moved over 200 miles away and my friend group went significantly down in size. The ones who I thought would stick around, left without a trace. However, the ones who stayed taught me an important lesson: quality over quantity. One in particular taught me that some friendships are more effortless than some. This does not mean that our friendship means less, only that the tremendous effort to make each other lives relevant to one another is not there.
I love our effortless friendship. Does it mean that we don't try? No, because we don't have to. We don't have to try to make it work because it just does. Do I care less about this friend than I do the others? Not a chance. Our friendship is different than the rest of the others, but the care we have for one another is not affected. I truly believe that, sometimes, people just work. There is no need for constant communication because at the end of the day, we both know that we'll always be there for one another.
The most important part of effortless friendship is that I know regardless of the time of day. If I call there will always be someone to answer, from boy problems, friend problems, to even rants about my professor I know she'll listen with no hesitation and give me the best advice. If it's 2 a.m. and I get dumped, she's the first number I'd go for. The things I cant really say aloud to other people, I can say to her, because there's a chance she probably is thinking the same thing, or even worse. when the stress of school seems like its too much she is there to remind me of the reward that is set to come. When sometimes I feel like the world and everyone else is against me, she not only tells me to stop being over-dramatic but also that everything will be okay. We listen non-judgmentally and give honest opinions. No one understands my love of designer handbags, independent films, macarons, nor my sense of humor (or lack of one) like she does. There's been times where I have been wrong, and she is not afraid to tell me so. When I come from school, it's like nothing has changed and we pick-up like I never even left in the first place. We do so without having to be in constant communication 24/7. Perhaps it is our personalities, or the undeniable fact that everyone gets on our nerves. Regardless, it woks for us.
I wouldn't trade our friendship for all the money in the world. Okay...false, but she would make me give her a cut and we'd probably still be friends anyway. One thing I know for sure is that I would never take our effortless friendship for granted, its not everyday that you have the privilege of meeting someone who just gets you. From indie film facetime dates, to hour(s) long phone calls, and exploring Dallas when I come home, I know that for as long as we're friends, our effortless friendship will always be something I cherish.
